Ok Im a naturaly confidence guy and when I meet the girl in real life I have no problem talking to her,touching her,but on the phone I normaly dont know what to talk about and its awkard any tips on what to talk about on the phone?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Phone Conversation tips!
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Francisco d'Anconia
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How about asking her out? 
Well yeah I will do that but its what to talk about I mean I just cant suddenly call her and say lets go out,she has to get to know me and I need some tips on what to talk about then ask her lets go out.Francisco d'Anconia said:How about asking her out?
Francisco d'Anconia
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Should have gotten rapport with her before getting her number then this wouldn't be an issue.
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Maybe if you have some trouble thinking of things to say, then you can take out a paper and have some default topics. This type of crutch might work short-term, but long-term you need to be able to do this creation on the fly.
If one topic runs dry (preferably before), then just transition into something else or revive the other thread. You just need to talk to more people on the phone. Go sign up on some random dating site or go out and get random #s from people to practice on.
It is a really bad idea to try memorizing ' routines' or things to say. I have some things I use all the the time sure, but I never try to memorize them word for word. I also only use them when it would be natural for them to come up. If you're ever thinking "which routine should I use", then the routines are hurting you. You've lost the natural flow of the conversation. Maybe practice taping your calls for review is a good idea, but not trying to run a script. Talking to people will be a lot of fun once you learn to let go.
If one topic runs dry (preferably before), then just transition into something else or revive the other thread. You just need to talk to more people on the phone. Go sign up on some random dating site or go out and get random #s from people to practice on.
It is a really bad idea to try memorizing ' routines' or things to say. I have some things I use all the the time sure, but I never try to memorize them word for word. I also only use them when it would be natural for them to come up. If you're ever thinking "which routine should I use", then the routines are hurting you. You've lost the natural flow of the conversation. Maybe practice taping your calls for review is a good idea, but not trying to run a script. Talking to people will be a lot of fun once you learn to let go.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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yehh this is a cool thread... like last night i jut cold-approached a group of girls... and number closed .... i texted the girl a little while after so she has my #.... but now ill probably call her 2m but dont rly know how to start the convo or w/e... and how to lead it into a date or w/e
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bump ppl.... this would rly be helpful
This thread reminds me of the guy on the "40 Year Old Virgin" movie when he couldn't find the willpower within to speak to the lady that he eventually married on the telephone.
I hate speaking to girls on the phone myself, I'm glad that I am married and don't have to do it anymore.
I would suggest that you take a deep breathe as you are dialing her number then talk in the deepest voice possible and focus on positive things when you are speaking to her.
I hate speaking to girls on the phone myself, I'm glad that I am married and don't have to do it anymore.
I would suggest that you take a deep breathe as you are dialing her number then talk in the deepest voice possible and focus on positive things when you are speaking to her.
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lol ill try it ...
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I hate talkin on the phone too,im better at it now once i know the person but i still have to write down topics on paper just in case, i might start of usin a couple but then if u guys have any chemistry whatsoever....u wont be usin that paper but for maybe just to gett started. If u come to a point where its really akward silence or u can sense akward silence coming i always say "let me call u back" or "i gotta go" and end on a high note. That also seems like sometimes it makes em a little jealous. Or depending on the chick shell think its rude and not appreciate it.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.