If you have to wait till lockdown to meet with her, then don't call too soon or often. A call can be fun for building vibes but its main purpose is to arrange a meeting.
THANK YOU. This is what I want saying in my other post......
The
PURPOSE of the call is to arrange a meet/a date. That's why I asked him what was
the PURPOSE of his calls.....you CAN'T call a woman just "to
talk". There has to be an endgoal,a reason for the call. You can't call just "to chat".
Black Widow Void said:
You haven't made the mistake of doing phone over-kill (which would desensitize attraction) and you've also not developed into a "phone buddy."
I agree. I generally see things from a few steps ahead into the future. It's true he hasn't made the mistakes of becoming a phone buddy or desensitizing her attraction,but my responses were to PREVENT HIM from making them,which,if he goes through with his CURRENT PLAN of using "phone game"......he
WILL make those mistakes. He 100%,without a SHADOW OF A DOUBT will make them. You know how I know?
Because we don't know when the
lockdown is going to end. So if he starts this phone game plan,he going to call her,what.....once or twice a week for..........what,the next three months? Four months? You think she won't be "de-sensitized" or he done become a "phone buddy" by then? Not to mention the pressure
ON HIM to have to somehow come up with new,fun,exciting phone conversation EACH CALL
twice a week for the next 3 to 4 months....maybe
longer until they can go out. You think he won't done become
familiar to her by then?
And once he's become familiar and she's gotten to know him OVER THE PHONE,that'll dampen her interest to meet in person,since she'll already know who it is she's going out with.
Despite contradictory advice from the *ahem* 'pros' above, you've laid down excellent groundwork.
"He's laid excellent groundwork". For what....a new friend? Look at what they talked about.........
"I asked how she was, how the lockdown was going, what she was up too, talked about some exams we would have written if there was no Corona Virus".
He asked her how she was doing....asked her about the lockdown........asked what she's been up to....and talked about their school exams.
That conversation could have taken place between two women who are friends,and/or two men who are buddies,and no one would have thought anything odd was going on. There was NOTHING romantic or sexual there...nothing to indicate interest from
either way.
Four months of that and I GUARANTEE YOU.....he's friendzone bound.
I "get it"....there's a lockdown going on. That's a legit reason. The problem is,women's emotions DON'T CARE ABOUT
"reason". Her feelings aren't going to care about a lockdown........they only care if they feel chemistry or not. I don't care what type of "game" people suggest.......he IS NOT going to be able to keep her interest sky high through weekly or bi-weekly phone calls for the next 3 or 4 months until lockdown is over....he's just
not.