"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Yo,

I saw in my thread that there are alot of guys in the Philly area on here and I think we need to start discussing the general strategy of getting laid in the PHL. Personally, I've found more luck in the surrounding areas - The burbs. No idea why, but it seems like girls have their guards up more in the city. Then again, I don't go out that much in the city. This is something I'm trying to change. My newest attempt is going to be to rock a suit and start hitting some of the really trendy clubs in the Rittenhouse/Center City area. Like I said in my thread, being a big dude, I get mistaken for being on the Eagles/Phillies/Flyers all the god damn time, and wearing a suit will only enhance the fact that people believe I'm somebody.

No idea how well this is going to work, but I'm gonna post back here when I notice something. I think we all need to get together for a little happier hour at some point. I suggest someplace low key with alot of space. The Lair has used Dark Horse Pub before, but I think we're starting to get a reputation there that I'd like to avoid. Any other suggestions? We should do happy hour and then hit some of the clubs and bars.

Also, go ahead and list the places you like to go and what kinds of success you've had there. Personally, being as I've spent most of my time in Finnigans Wake, I've gotten quite a few numbers and a couple of make outs there. My personal best was taking a girl home (I live like 9 blocks away) and having her back to her friends before closing time. That was a result of just having the balls to ask plus a whole lot of luck. Past that, I've not had a whole lot of luck in the city. Brownies in Ardmore on Wednesday nights its AWESOME! Dress like a frat boy...make sure your Tshirt has something cool on it (Hot Topic?) and you're pretty much in. Girls are really friendly there and it's PACKED! It can be really intimidating, so don't feel bad if for the first time you just freeze up. You'll slowly get used to it. This is the bar I go to when I have horrible, horrible approach anxiety. I have so many funny stories about that spot.

So with the holidays here, I figure all of our schedules are ****ed. I may be able to make it out this coming Saturday, but I can't make a guarantee. I think my PM box just got activated, so I'll make sure to hit some of you up for real names + phone numbers.

Hope to meet you guys around,

Lush.

WOLRD ****ING CHAMPIONS!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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anyone else?

south jersey/philly here.
 

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I'm new to the area so getting with a wing would be fun. I'm 29, asian, can dance, very educated. Holla at yo boy.
 

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if ur trying to find asian hot spots i can help u with that. im asian as well and a native of the area.
 

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Actually I'm fine with any spots (asian, white, hispanic, etc). I'm just looking for a good wingman. All my friends lack game and they can ****block without knowing.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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im down to chill, just let me know ahead of time. i'm not the ****blocking type so its all good.

you from philly? in the center city/university city area almost everyday.
 

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AAAgent,

I'm from the North of Philly, but can make it into Philly anytime.
 

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I'm from Philly- but in Miami right now. Be back at the start of Feb. Will consider something then.
 

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chinese/lunar new years this weekend i think. there are a bunch of parties goin on but i'm not so sure i'm going to go out. i'm very tight on money ever since that $700 phone bill with my ex from a month of so ago. im debating whether or not to go out this weekend.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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next Friday or Saturday will be good for me.
 

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we still meetin up tonight or this weekend?
 

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I was waiting for ya, but made plans last night. Let's meet up next week THURS or FRI. Tell me location and time to meet.
 

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I'm back in Philly.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I live in the city- so I can do either night. I don't want to stay out late on a Thursday though- I have to get up early on weekdays.
 

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me too.

blue martini? paradigm? mint? suggestions guys.
 

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I have to get up early too, but THURS works best for me. I have better luck on the weeknights anyway.

I'm not familiar with those places. Just tell me what to wear (I'm very adaptable).
 

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that's olde city.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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