Persuaded hb on a date.

[Rainman4707]

Just had this converstaion with a hb on pof.


Me - Uh oh - radio silence. Should I grab my cape & tights & come rescue you?

Her -
Haha.
Sorry complete forgotten you had replied. I do need rescuing lol

Me - Haha..well go & open your bedroom window a little & i'll sneak in & carry you off in the cold dark night to my hot hideout & do bad things to you that you would like. I'll drop you back off in an hour. Nobody will know you're gone.

Her -
Window is already slightly open been waiting awhile......
Only an hour

Me : Have to be another night i'm afraid. Gotta stay in durham area tonight...watching out for bad guys. I can take you out Thursday or Friday??

Her - Ah that was going so well haha. Oh watching out for bad guys?? Little busy Thursday and friday

Me -
Haha. Yes i am..try not to get to excited.

How about weekend?

Her :
What you mean watching out for bad guys?
Can't promise anything weekend works out

Me :
That is what i am doing tonight & tomorrow night. Its my job. Not often i get four days off in a row. Guess it was'nt meant to be... like you say..see what happens.

anyways i'd better concentrate on work. Sweet dreams playa .

Her -
Security/doorman?

I'm free Saturday/Sunday.

Long night for you, Peace out

Suddenly from a maybe she is now available at weekend. I think my last message changed her mind. Do you agree?

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[Rainman4707]

I knew i shouldnt have offered weekend date after she rejected thurs fri. I read on here she should offer a alternative, but i thought i'd chance it. Looks like its worked, but its not a good thing to do.

 

[BeExcellent]

Not so fast hot shot. You ain't on a date yet.

Tell her Saturday won't work but how about she joins you on Sunday to watch football (or whatever Sunday thing you'll be doing anyway.) That's laid back, low pressure, and will have her wondering what you were doing the night before.

And if she refuses, then I think that's 3 strikes and she's out.

 

[Billtx49]

Not so fast hot shot. You ain't on a date yet.

Yes, texting isn't a date. Good fun and flirty convo though is she’s the type to be into Superheros.

 

[Rainman4707]

Was going to message her back tomorrow, but i was back on pof talking to other women & she was online...so messsaged her saying

Me- I can pick you up Saturday midday (i hadnt seen be excellents post yet)

Her - Have to let you know in morning, spending Friday night in Durham.

Me- Thats fine. I think my weekend will beat most peoples month. Am i going to get your number then?

Her - And why is that? (number)

Me - Wont be able to do Sunday, Saturday is ok. We'll see what happens Saturday. Ryan.

Her - Saturday is good, probably just be after midday need to travel home & shower. We will see what happens.

 

[Billtx49]

Me- Am i going to get your number then?

Her - And why is that? (number)

If I were you I wouldn’t place any bet on this girl…

 

[Rainman4707]

She gave me the number..she was asking why my weekend will be be so great.

 

[17 shots]

Nice.. I really didn't think you were gonna pull that off lol

 

[Glassguy]

There are numerous things that show low interest on her part in those texts.

Always ask HER AVAILABILITY.....Never start rattling off days. You basically just offered her your entire week and weekend and she shot you down. Make her commit a time and if it works with your schedule great. If not you counter offer.

I'm afraid this chick will flake. Not so sure that I wouldn't disappear if I were you and see if she reaches back out to confirm a date.

This is the type of behavior that creates flakes and then guys coming on here screaming they are tired of women flaking. Pick up on signs of low interest and dont be afraid to bail out. If they do in fact have higher interest than their messages indicate, they will certainly reach out to you.

I would have politely taken back my offer when all she said "not sure if anything this weekend works out".

But I would have asked her availability at the onset of asking her to her together and would have never rolled out my entire week for her to feel put on a pedestal/showing that you do not have a busy life to begin with.

Food for thought.

 

[Chi Town]

You did fine, just don't get your hopes up with women, no matter how good your game is, women are flaky in general.

Also, don't hit her up anymore to confirm Any kind of dates, if she wants to hang out on Saturday/sunday she will hit u up and let you know

 

[Chi Town]

There are numerous things that show low interest on her part in those texts.

Always ask HER AVAILABILITY.....Never start rattling off days. You basically just offered her your entire week and weekend and she shot you down. Make her commit a time and if it works with your schedule great. If not you counter offer.

I'm afraid this chick will flake. Not so sure that I wouldn't disappear if I were you and see if she reaches back out to confirm a date.

This is the type of behavior that creates flakes and then guys coming on here screaming they are tired of women flaking. Pick up on signs of low interest and dont be afraid to bail out. If they do in fact have higher interest than their messages indicate, they will certainly reach out to you.

I would have politely taken back my offer when all she said "not sure if anything this weekend works out".

But I would have asked her availability at the onset of asking her to her together and would have never rolled out my entire week for her to feel put on a pedestal/showing that you do not have a busy life to begin with.

Food for thought.

You guys need to read exactly what mr.glass said because it's very critical for game.
The guys that are the best at game are very good at screening low interest women.

When your a guy who always has multiple women in there life's and lots of options you don't waste time with low interest women.

OP, As I was reading your convo I instantly though to myself, "yeah she s low interest" but it doesn't matter because your only focus is getting good and comfortable with conversation with women but I see you have a decent way of doing that already, so now you just need to learn to screen low interest so you don't waste time.

Like I said, talk to other girls and don't bother hitting her up anymore, if shes really interested she will hit u up.

 

[Rainman4707]

I did think about asking when she was available, but i read somewhere..most likely on here that one should never ask a woman if she is available...you are the alpha..you are the man...you make the meetups in the beginning...you be in control.
So..yeah...that put me off asking her availability.

 

[The Duke]

This is low interest. She is just appeasing you. You might get her out once, but thats a big maybe but there won't be a 2nd date.

You are better off just deleting women like this. They are a waste of time 95% of the time!

 

[Glassguy]

This is low interest. She is just appeasing you. You might get her out once, but thats a big maybe but there won't be a 2nd date.

You are better off just deleting women like this. They are a waste of time 95% of the time!

Agreed. I would not text her again. If she reaches out, just invite her over to enjoy a drink and chill. Spend no money on a chick like this until she has earned it and shows more interest.

I did think about asking when she was available, but i read somewhere..most likely on here that one should never ask a woman if she is available...you are the alpha..you are the man...you make the meetups in the beginning...you be in control.
So..yeah...that put me off asking her availability.

I will tell you this- For me personally, it works much better.

"Lets grab a drink this week. What is your availability?"
She either tells me a day or she pulls a "I'm not sure/I will get back to you/things are busy this week" etc. If she does not INVEST by giving me a day (even if I am not free that day and I counter offer) I will simply take back my offer.

Me: Lets grab a quick drink this week. What is your availability?
Her: I am not sure I will have to let you know
Me: In that case lets not worry about grabbing a drink right now since it seems you are tied up. Let me know later on down the road if you can get free.

Thats it. Withdrawn the offer and move along. You will be surprised how quick their schedules open up when they see you arent a pvssy and not going to chase them.

If a woman wants my attention, she needs to make it easy to give it to her. Plain and simple.

 

[HankHill]

Me: Lets grab a quick drink this week. What is your availability?

That's exactly what I say, I never suggest a date/time/location until I know when she's free.

 

[jaymbrs]

Im pulling for you. But stay grounded. See this through the weekend. If she flakes, toss her.

 

[marmel75]

This seems like an example of what I am talking about when guys put lots of time, effort and energy into low interest women.

Honestly, OP even if you het her on a date her interest level isn't going to be where you want it. Bottom line she likely isn't physically attracted to you so you are not going anywhere even if you manger to get her out. Clear waste of time from my view.

Been there done that, i talk from experience. You'd do much better to find a woman who makes it easy to meet up. Those are the interested ones.

As for this scenario I will give OP a 10% chance of the date actually happening and a 1% chance if the date happens of him actually banging this woman at some point. Low odds bro, not worth it. Im not saying its impossible Im just saying I have learned that you always play the odds that tilt the deck in your favor.