Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
My initial feelings toward her were "friends" and just didnt think i would be dating her. The last 4 or 5 girls ive dated have been atleast 7's for looks ,but honestly have turned out to be cold, boring, or arrogant *****es. This girl im dating now is awesome. We started out as friends and i kinda just fell into a relationship with her recently. She has a wonderful personality, is smart, thinks on the same intellectual level as me, and seems pretty outgoing. I really enjoy her company. Then my dad the other night was telling me about how he just didnt picture her the way he thought. He had been used to me bringing home pretty smokin blondes and such.....lol I told him, you know what though them blondes and pretty girls just didnt have a really good personality. I dont know what it is but this 6 to me just feels like a good LTR material. Oh another thing, when we kiss it is out of this world. She is the best kisser i have ever had. Cant wait to find out how she is in bed I guess what im trying to say is looks arent always everything. Personality means so much more and is something that lasts too. If you can get both then the much better, but its hard to find. Me i feel pretty damn happy with my new girl even though shes only a 6 or so.