"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Personal issue with sarging

Michael Chief

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Ok so I tried sarging this 2 set
but for some reason I couldn't gather the balls to do it
I have NO problems sarging when i'm inebriated
WTF?

Does anyone have any ideas on how I can get the same fearlessness of approach when I'm sober as if I had a couple drinks?

It's not the fear of rejection that got me. I don't fear rejection. I don't even know what was stopping me. It's not the lack of an opener. I had an opener. I really can't explain where my anxiety was coming from.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Michael Chief

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well i was waiting for the 2 set to sit down after theyve ordered their yogurt (its some weird upscale yogurt cafe...which also made me feel a bit out of my element) cuz i was planning on approaching them and then sitting with them

when they sat down a lot of minutes had already passed
 

On Point

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Most time I hear guys talk about wanting to approach and not they have some plan in their head like this. It seems to paralyze people.

Just go for it. While they were in line ask what is good or something. As soon as you start hatching plans and drawing diagrams in the war room you're screwed.

gRiM999 said:
well i was waiting for the 2 set to sit down after theyve ordered their yogurt (its some weird upscale yogurt cafe...which also made me feel a bit out of my element) cuz i was planning on approaching them and then sitting with them

when they sat down a lot of minutes had already passed
 
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