"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Perfect way to get out of any argument

diplomatic_lie

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I had no idea who told me this, but I was told when a woman is angry (assuming she is your girlfriend or date), to give her a kiss.

Tried it out a dozen times over the last few months (yeah I have a habit of saying the wrong thing to people all the time, you should see what my teachers say about me). It worked EVERY TIME.

Only yesterday, on a date with a cute blonde chick, I made a stupid joke about her, and she got real mad at me. One kiss (slow, with tongue, but nothing more), and she was suddenly ok again. Same effect dozens of times, every single of them a success. The girl didn't forget what I said, but she did shrug it off. Try it, and see if it works for you.

Just don't try it on strangers, your mom, or clients.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Kaine

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Hmmm, I wonder how this would work in the long term.

I imagine you don't think want to condition her to associate negative feelings with your passionate tongue wrestling. So use sparingly?
 

penkitten

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i think that would work!

i would flash my guy to get out of one :D
 

jakeyboy

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uh, i would like to say that this only works for minor arguments or only if she's cheesed at you minorly.

because i once tried this on my ex, she was seriously pissed off at me... we were in the cab, so when i moved in to kiss her, i got roughly shoved away.

damn. so its really not advisable if she's majorly pissed.

trust me on this one.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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diplomatic_lie

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Yeah, only works for moderate arguments, or if she gets a little annoyed. But if you use it for every minor argument, like Kaine said, she might associate making out with negative feelings. So I tend to only use it for moderate arguments.

And I definitely agree it only works when used sparingly. But otherwise, its seems to work great for me, if only just to turn things around without having to apologise or grovel.

i would flash my guy to get out of one
Doesn't work on guys, unless you go to a gay bar ;)
 

Giovanni Casanova

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Originally posted by penkitten
i would flash my guy to get out of one :D
Giovanni Casanova = her guy

Lucky lucky.
 
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