She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
So you think your supposed to be a "suitor" to chicks in bars and search for a GF or wife?The demographics of people at bars is exactly same as everywhere else
I saw all the hotties from my gym at the same bars I go to
BookstoreIMO, it is not about absolutes. It's about probability.
If I wanted to find myself a party girl who likes being out until 3 am every weekend, my odds of finding such a woman at the gym at 8 am is going to be pretty low.
If I wanted to find a woman who is responsible, healthy, ready for a LTR and marriage and wants to have children, my odds of finding such a woman liquored up at bar at 2am isn't going to be favorable either.
Obviously, this does not mean women who go to bars never hit the gym, or women who go to the gym never hit the bars. But if 'm looking for a needle, my first choice isn't going to be to sift through a haystack.
It will be to start looking in closets and drawers.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
+1You can't meet girls ANYWHERE if you don't have a habit of starting conversations as a matter of NATURAL AND AUTOMATIC HABIT.
If you have the strategy of only starting conversations with girls that pass your "will she age well so I'll look good next to her in ten years" test than you'll not be able to meet any girl any where under any circumstances.
Doesn't matter where you go.
Before you meet ANYBODY you need to TALK TO PEOPLE.
Yeah yeah, we know. You are a super friendly super rich super handsome super hero that is always getting showered with compliments telling you how fantastically AWESOME you are.
But you CANNOT talk to girls you are attracted to.
You'll meet NOBODY until you solve that inner game issue.
(hint: posting more threads won't help)
bro I've seen 90% of the hot girls from my gym at the bars in my cityIMO, it is not about absolutes. It's about probability.
If I wanted to find myself a party girl who likes being out until 3 am every weekend, my odds of finding such a woman at the gym at 8 am is going to be pretty low.
If I wanted to find a woman who is responsible, healthy, ready for a LTR and marriage and wants to have children, my odds of finding such a woman liquored up at bar at 2am isn't going to be favorable either.
Obviously, this does not mean women who go to bars never hit the gym, or women who go to the gym never hit the bars. But if 'm looking for a needle, my first choice isn't going to be to sift through a haystack.
It will be to start looking in closets and drawers.
They all hoez with the right situation that's what bar life ages 21-34 is all about man. Stop putting them on pedastals. If you get some AMS game you can bang 50% of them. They "like" to be gamed, gives them something to talk about.bro I've seen 90% of the hot girls from my gym at the bars in my city
now one thing I should say is I'm obviously not interested in the girls who get sloppy drunk and don't control themselves. I look for the girl who has a couple drinks and is still very classy/well behaved
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
They all hoez with the right situation that's what bar life ages 21-34 is all about man. Stop putting them on pedastals. If you get some AMS game you can bang 50% of them. They "like" to be gamed, gives them something to talk about.
bro it's the same people at bars as anywhere else, that's my whole pointAnd look is all you do, Dave.
They're all so sweet from afar.....
But I'm listening. Go ahead and tell me how to find that ageless, quality wife and mother in a bar. I'm all ears.
Oh, you didn't know. They also have nude photos of themselves on adult dating websites too and they meet up with Chads for anonymous sex.bro it's the same people at bars as anywhere else, that's my whole point
I've seen people from my job, my gym, people who work at my favorite stores in the mall at the bars. It's the same demographics
Being In that space their still in a h0e/fun MINDSET. So count on them looking for adult fun or interaction.I’m not taking sides here, but to be fair, there is a difference between the following scenarios:
1. A chick that is at the bar/club every week/weekend getting drunk.
Or
2. A more clean cut working professional who was brought to the bar/club with coworkers/friends for a birthday party or girls night out, etc.
3. A lone wolf business woman who wants to have a beer after work.
Obviously the #2 and #3 category makes up a SMALL percentage of the women there. And you would probably meet them early in the night, not at closing time lol.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yeah I don’t disagree.Being I'm that space their still in a h0e/fun MINDSET.