I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
So you think your supposed to be a "suitor" to chicks in bars and search for a GF or wife?The demographics of people at bars is exactly same as everywhere else
I saw all the hotties from my gym at the same bars I go to
BookstoreIMO, it is not about absolutes. It's about probability.
If I wanted to find myself a party girl who likes being out until 3 am every weekend, my odds of finding such a woman at the gym at 8 am is going to be pretty low.
If I wanted to find a woman who is responsible, healthy, ready for a LTR and marriage and wants to have children, my odds of finding such a woman liquored up at bar at 2am isn't going to be favorable either.
Obviously, this does not mean women who go to bars never hit the gym, or women who go to the gym never hit the bars. But if 'm looking for a needle, my first choice isn't going to be to sift through a haystack.
It will be to start looking in closets and drawers.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
+1You can't meet girls ANYWHERE if you don't have a habit of starting conversations as a matter of NATURAL AND AUTOMATIC HABIT.
If you have the strategy of only starting conversations with girls that pass your "will she age well so I'll look good next to her in ten years" test than you'll not be able to meet any girl any where under any circumstances.
Doesn't matter where you go.
Before you meet ANYBODY you need to TALK TO PEOPLE.
Yeah yeah, we know. You are a super friendly super rich super handsome super hero that is always getting showered with compliments telling you how fantastically AWESOME you are.
But you CANNOT talk to girls you are attracted to.
You'll meet NOBODY until you solve that inner game issue.
(hint: posting more threads won't help)
bro I've seen 90% of the hot girls from my gym at the bars in my cityIMO, it is not about absolutes. It's about probability.
If I wanted to find myself a party girl who likes being out until 3 am every weekend, my odds of finding such a woman at the gym at 8 am is going to be pretty low.
If I wanted to find a woman who is responsible, healthy, ready for a LTR and marriage and wants to have children, my odds of finding such a woman liquored up at bar at 2am isn't going to be favorable either.
Obviously, this does not mean women who go to bars never hit the gym, or women who go to the gym never hit the bars. But if 'm looking for a needle, my first choice isn't going to be to sift through a haystack.
It will be to start looking in closets and drawers.
They all hoez with the right situation that's what bar life ages 21-34 is all about man. Stop putting them on pedastals. If you get some AMS game you can bang 50% of them. They "like" to be gamed, gives them something to talk about.bro I've seen 90% of the hot girls from my gym at the bars in my city
now one thing I should say is I'm obviously not interested in the girls who get sloppy drunk and don't control themselves. I look for the girl who has a couple drinks and is still very classy/well behaved
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
They all hoez with the right situation that's what bar life ages 21-34 is all about man. Stop putting them on pedastals. If you get some AMS game you can bang 50% of them. They "like" to be gamed, gives them something to talk about.
bro it's the same people at bars as anywhere else, that's my whole pointAnd look is all you do, Dave.
They're all so sweet from afar.....
But I'm listening. Go ahead and tell me how to find that ageless, quality wife and mother in a bar. I'm all ears.
Oh, you didn't know. They also have nude photos of themselves on adult dating websites too and they meet up with Chads for anonymous sex.bro it's the same people at bars as anywhere else, that's my whole point
I've seen people from my job, my gym, people who work at my favorite stores in the mall at the bars. It's the same demographics
Being In that space their still in a h0e/fun MINDSET. So count on them looking for adult fun or interaction.I’m not taking sides here, but to be fair, there is a difference between the following scenarios:
1. A chick that is at the bar/club every week/weekend getting drunk.
Or
2. A more clean cut working professional who was brought to the bar/club with coworkers/friends for a birthday party or girls night out, etc.
3. A lone wolf business woman who wants to have a beer after work.
Obviously the #2 and #3 category makes up a SMALL percentage of the women there. And you would probably meet them early in the night, not at closing time lol.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yeah I don’t disagree.Being I'm that space their still in a h0e/fun MINDSET.