"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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People say making friends and getting girls are very similar processes

bigdave17

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Yet I consistently make friends with men who are of an extremely high caliber (guys who are in shape, high status, often very successful types) very easily and without even trying. I often have a ballpark of around 10-20 people who want to hang out with me really without even trying. Yet I just want 1 decent girlfriend and I can't even get a date with somebody I want to be with


Is this extremely strange?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Uh no its not at all.

Are you trying to bang your male friends? Do you sit around and run your hand down the inside of their thigh while sitting next to them in public? Do you escalate with them and grab their hand and put it on you c0ck?

Its a completely different dynamic.

If you actually believe that, thats probably your number 1 problem.
 

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When I make friends who are guys, its to play golf, drink beer, work out, etc.

I want to date and smash women. Totally different.

High status and great communication skills will make both easier.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yet I consistently make friends with men who are of an extremely high caliber (guys who are in shape, high status, often very successful types) very easily and without even trying. I often have a ballpark of around 10-20 people who want to hang out with me really without even trying. Yet I just want 1 decent girlfriend and I can't even get a date with somebody I want to be with


Is this extremely strange?
I think you are pedestalizing females in general. I treat the process as I would as if I were with a friend, with one difference... I make my intentions known, with body language and flirting, that I want to fvck. The up and down looks, looking at her lips, spinning her around and checking her out, when you first pick them up for a date, putting your hand on the small of her back, etc. Start small and step up the escalation over the night. They still catch hell and bullsh!t with them like she was one of the boys. Just because she's pretty and got a vaj doesn't mean she gets a pass. Most women don't want that anyways.
 
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