"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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People get Married so Early

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I see my peers getting married around ages 18-21. To me, that’s absolutely crazy. Way too early. I need more time to get my shyt together than that. But what do y’all think?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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read the rational male and get married after 30s (or not at all). i think the situation with child support in usa is really screwed
 

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The term High School sweetheart comes to mind. If a girl doesn't have that she'll make it up. There's a good group of work oriented girls out there wanting to marry in their thirties too. Some real Millenial stuff lolz...
 

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A lot of people do get married young. Some of the best marriages I know, they got married young, surprisingly enough.
But the average age of first marriage in the west has been climbing rapidly. In the USA, it's 27 for women and 29 for men. In most of Europe, it's actually in the 30s.
 

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A lot of people do get married young. Some of the best marriages I know, they got married young, surprisingly enough.
But the average age of first marriage in the west has been climbing rapidly. In the USA, it's 27 for women and 29 for men. In most of Europe, it's actually in the 30s.
I think there are some benefits to marrying early, if both people have good heads on their shoulders.

1. Can focus on careers and building assets (together) rather than hitting the club or trolling Tinhder online lol.

2. For having kids, you have more energy to raise them and lower risk of birth defects.

3. You can potentially retire earlier, rather than be a 60 year old with a kid still in college.

But it’s definitely not for everybody.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Reyaj

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I think there are some benefits to marrying early, if both people have good heads on their shoulders.

1. Can focus on careers and building assets (together) rather than hitting the club or trolling Tinhder online lol.

2. For having kids, you have more energy to raise them and lower risk of birth defects.

3. You can potentially retire earlier, rather than be a 60 year old with a kid still in college.

But it’s definitely not for everybody.
All true.. wasn't in the cards for you and me though lol
 

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I think 60 to 80% of millionaires married in their youth
 
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