Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Drew...I was cleaning out my closet and found that dildo of yours. I got all teary-eyed reminiscing about how NeanderthalSupersoldier used to violate you with that thing back when he was trolling the hell out of the chat room. And since when did you tie up pen? You were MY biotch, dammit!
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I feel so special...
Penkitten PMed me on this site and wanted some advice about a personal matter. It was easier to talk on Yahoo messenger. She knew that I rocked hardcore, she just didn't know how hardcore until she started really talking to me.
We joked about meeting for a while. At some point, yeah, we did exchange pictures, and she did end up coming up to Michigan one weekend to meet me.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
That’s interesting because I’m taking a trip to Times Square this year for New Year’s Eve. I figured I should do it at least once in my life and before marriage. I will try to chug some alcohol in your honor but that’s given that it doesn’t first freeze as an iscle in my esophagus, since I would be in subzero temperatures.
We'll send you a copy of the marriage license.Originally posted by Desdinova
Why am I still not buying this??
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dear padrote,
Actually...chicks with kids make FAR better "partners" than childless hoochie mamas who are too wrapped up in partying to think about anything else. There is a higher level of maturity and chicks with kids are already domestic. A guy can also see what kind of wife and mother they will be before signing on the dotted line.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Thanks dude.
Thanks, man! I agree, it is a great thing!Originally posted by fender85
It is truly a great thing when two people with herpes can unite and become one.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
