Paying for a flight

[cognac]

Would it be considered a chump move to tell a girl you'll pay for her flight tickets to come see you if she is low on funds to pay for herself?

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Cognac,
Well it depends doesn't it? how much is the ticket going to cost?is she worth it?is she going to come up with the action?have you explicitly let her know your expectations?have you explained there is only one suitable Bed,Yours!at Maison Cognac.....I've done it when flush with cash and short on numbers,pleasant memories!!!....Having said that the understanding would be that you Bankroll her for the Weekend....No basis for a relationship....Why not fly to see her?that's much better if you have never met her.

 

[cognac]

I've met her before. Already flew out to see her earlier in the year but had no action even though I had the chance. She's from where I live so she'd be staying at her parents for the week if I do pay for her flight.

 

[window]

I wouldn't do it, just sets the tone for the whole relationship...just tell her you'd like to see her if she comes out. Why can't her parents pay ? would you pay for a mate of yours ? If she has to save up and pay for the trip herself she'll appreciate more.

 

[cognac]

I hear ya. That's what I'm kinda afraid of; if I pay that she'll think I'm made of money or some crap like that. She wanted to come back home for the christmas to new years week but doesn't have the money for the flight. She's moving back here in March though.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Cognac,
After reading your posts,I would pay.Though you haven't told us the cost,Probably mere Bagatelle,this is obviously no cheap fling and this Girl and her Parents will always be grateful to you.Why not it is Christmas?

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

You should pay for her ticket only if you can do so in good conscience. If you think she sees you as a cash cow, hell no. But like Scaramouche implied, if you make something happen with this one, you have major points with her and her family.

 

[DJDanny]

If you were going to see her and she knew you were staying with her and what that implied I'd say give er. But paying for her to come see her parents??? ummmm no.

 

[AMDG]

Paying for this flight is like playing the roulette - you may win some intimacy or you may get only a kiss on the cheek, but your self-esteem will be damaged in any case.

 

[vitor]

IF you are going to sleep with her atleast 4 times I would do it. How long have you been dating her? What is in it for you? If she was staying at your place and knew putting out was required this would be easy...

Will you pay for my ticket?

 

[dark god]

Would it be considered a chump move to tell a girl you'll pay for her flight tickets to come see you if she is low on funds to pay for herself?

Are u gonna get sum pvssy payments?

 

[squirrels]

Would it be considered a chump move to tell a girl you'll pay for her flight tickets to come see you if she is low on funds to pay for herself?

To what end?

If she's staying with her parents, F that. Hit her up next time she visits her parents.

If she's staying with YOU, or if you've already banged her/you are confident you would be banging her, then MAYBE. But a very hesitant maybe...the conditions would have to be right.

If her parents live there, why not just bang her out next time she comes home to visit her parents?

 

[cognac]

I used to date her and bang her a few years back. Lost touch with her because I had so much crap going on at the time. Some of my family lives in the state she resides in now so i took the opportunity to fly out to see her and also visit some family. I had the chance to whoopy her up but some of my family was around where we were and it just seemed inappropriate to do in front of them.

Just a couple of questions about holiday crap. Should I even bother saying Merry Xmas on Xmas? Telling her happy Bday cuz her Bday is a couple days after Xmas. And should I even bother saying Happy New Years too?

BTW the flight is about $700 round trip.

 

[squirrels]

I used to date her and bang her a few years back. Lost touch with her because I had so much crap going on at the time. Some of my family lives in the state she resides in now so i took the opportunity to fly out to see her and also visit some family. I had the chance to whoopy her up but some of my family was around where we were and it just seemed inappropriate to do in front of them.

Just a couple of questions about holiday crap. Should I even bother saying Merry Xmas on Xmas? Telling her happy Bday cuz her Bday is a couple days after Xmas. And should I even bother saying Happy New Years too?

BTW the flight is about $700 round trip.

I've missed some nice "marks" because of the presence of family. I remember one time I was "in" with my sister's friend and my grandmother (God rest her soul) started meddling, trying to hook me up with a girl that I could've already hooked up with...made me feel so awkward I backed out and never got that chance again. (Fortunately, I got with another girl that night)

$700?? F**K NO! You could get a nice hooker for that much. Wait until she comes home again, then make a move. And don't worry about all the "Merry Christmas" stuff unless you're saying it just to say it (and not to just "ping" her to make sure she knows you're still there...a lot of guys do that and it's beta-behavior)

 

[Jitterbug]

If you've already hit it and broke up, why bother paying $700 for the same thing again?

 

[Slickster]

DO NOT PAY FOR HER FLIGHT.

She (and her family) knew xmas was coming for the past 12 months. If she/they wanted to be together for the holidays they would've made it happen.

If she was "really" interested in you then she would've REALLY made it happen.

This is absolutely not your responsibility. It sounds like she is trying to use your previous encounters as a way of bribing you. Be extremely wary of a chick like this.

Tell her you'd "love to see her if she makes it out" AND THAT IS IT!

P.S. It would be a fun experiment to really play up how much fun this X-mas/New Years is going to be back home. Tell her about some great things going on and how it would be so fun to have her there. Something tells me she'll scrape up the funds. Then you'll know exactly the type of girl you're dealing with.

 

[cognac]

So it's a bad idea to even say happy birthday on her birthday a couple days after xmas and to say merry christmas? A simple text on her birthday wouldn't be a bad idea would it?
I actually like this broad more than the others I screw around with. I dunno I usually have a steady girl this time of the year so it's weird to me to be in this position.

 

[Trader]

So it's a bad idea to even say happy birthday on her birthday a couple days after xmas and to say merry christmas? A simple text on her birthday wouldn't be a bad idea would it?
I actually like this broad more than the others I screw around with. I dunno I usually have a steady girl this time of the year so it's weird to me to be in this position.

Use this general rule before acting

'Would I do what I am about to do, if it was a guy instead of a girl?'

Well, you would pay for a ticket if the guy was your best friend, so you probably would pay for the ticket if she was your long-term gf and showed loyalty.

But would you pay for a ticket for a guy who was simply an acquiantance? No. So don't pay for this girl who you are not close with.

 

[cognac]

So I texted her happy birfday on her bday. She replied saying I'm awesome because she didn't think I remembered her bday. I told her **** yeah I remember it. Then she says she wishes she was back home. And then flirting with her I told her I wish she was here too and I miss her. She says oh yeah, cool beans. And then starts ranting about some crap going on about her ex not paying for her kids private school and how he might get kicked out. I just told her that's messed up and her ex is a pos for doing that. She texted something else back pertaining to the thing about her ex but I never replied back because it was just ridiculous that she started telling me that crap. I mean I'll lend an ear for a while but when a chic changes the subject to something that's going wrong in their life from some light flirting and it consumes the whole convo there's no point. Just want some critique on how I handled it.

 

[cognac]

How so? Give me some pointers. And do you think it is salvagable?