"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Paying for a date

psychgrad

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How does one make sure that the girl will pay for half the bill. This girl asked me if I wanted to go to this fancy restaurant that she has been wanting to go to, but i refuse to pay 50+ for her. I do not want to be in a situation where we finish dinner and not knowing if i have to pay all of it.

I like to go to fancy resturants and try new restaurants but there is no way I am going to pay for her as a first date.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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just let her know before it even gets started.

"i hope u know u're pitching in for the bill. i aint funding the waiter's paycheck by myself."

if u say it in a funny way, it probably wont come across with u lookin like a cheapskate.
 

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Originally posted by psychgrad
I like to go to fancy resturants and try new restaurants but there is no way I am going to pay for her as a first date.
Offer to take her out for coffee or something el cheapo like that. If she refutes your offer then you know the kind of girl you're dealing with and can plan accordingly.

Cram a double cheeseburger down her throat followed up with dessert of hot man chowder. It's all self indulgent kunts like that are worth for anyway. Treat her as such. Every guy following your load will thank you immensely!
 

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I always say I'm a feminist(which I am, strangely enough). Either way, just bring it up on the phone before the date or at the begining of the date.

If going 50/50 makes you feel like a cheapskate have her pay for the first date, you pay for the 2nd.

If she throws a hissy fit, next her. You shouldn't have to pay for your time with her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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As a FIRST date?

Dude, you shouldn't be spending more than $10 on that first gathering. It's not about how much cash or toys you can flash, it's about your game and getting her to feel things. You don't wanna get thrown in the bag with all the other suckers who take her out "to dinner and a movie", don't cha?
 

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She is in one of my classes and have gaming her ever since. She would always give me IOIs, for example, She says " I am going to the movies tomorrow I wish i could go with someone". I would just stay quiet, then I guess finally she just straight out asked me.
 
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