"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Paying for a date

psychgrad

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How does one make sure that the girl will pay for half the bill. This girl asked me if I wanted to go to this fancy restaurant that she has been wanting to go to, but i refuse to pay 50+ for her. I do not want to be in a situation where we finish dinner and not knowing if i have to pay all of it.

I like to go to fancy resturants and try new restaurants but there is no way I am going to pay for her as a first date.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ace of Flames

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just let her know before it even gets started.

"i hope u know u're pitching in for the bill. i aint funding the waiter's paycheck by myself."

if u say it in a funny way, it probably wont come across with u lookin like a cheapskate.
 

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Originally posted by psychgrad
I like to go to fancy resturants and try new restaurants but there is no way I am going to pay for her as a first date.
Offer to take her out for coffee or something el cheapo like that. If she refutes your offer then you know the kind of girl you're dealing with and can plan accordingly.

Cram a double cheeseburger down her throat followed up with dessert of hot man chowder. It's all self indulgent kunts like that are worth for anyway. Treat her as such. Every guy following your load will thank you immensely!
 

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I always say I'm a feminist(which I am, strangely enough). Either way, just bring it up on the phone before the date or at the begining of the date.

If going 50/50 makes you feel like a cheapskate have her pay for the first date, you pay for the 2nd.

If she throws a hissy fit, next her. You shouldn't have to pay for your time with her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Gonzalo

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As a FIRST date?

Dude, you shouldn't be spending more than $10 on that first gathering. It's not about how much cash or toys you can flash, it's about your game and getting her to feel things. You don't wanna get thrown in the bag with all the other suckers who take her out "to dinner and a movie", don't cha?
 

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She is in one of my classes and have gaming her ever since. She would always give me IOIs, for example, She says " I am going to the movies tomorrow I wish i could go with someone". I would just stay quiet, then I guess finally she just straight out asked me.
 
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