The Simple Man
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I was thinking about this, but after hearing about what witnesses heard, it may not have been him driving. The vehicle he drive was a rear engined Porsche, which tend to make inexperienced drivers slide out of control easier (he left with another person with the intention of taking a five minute drive, it is speculated it wasn't Walker driving).Malice said:That's what happens when you drive too fast. Life is not a movie.
Life is very much a movie. Everyone lives it different. In other words to each his own. If I throw any more cliches might have to write the next blockbuster. All I need is another writers strike.Malice said:That's what happens when you drive too fast. Life is not a movie.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Fatal Jay said:I heard on the news, he was not experienced enough for the car.
This is true in some cases, but a reputable dealer will strongly recommend taking lessons.Mike32ct said:Celebrities have the money for fast exotic cars but usually not the training and experience to drive them.
Sounds like you're thinking of the 911 with it's aft engine pendulum effect. The CGT is simply a 610hp beast that is notorious for losing traction if one is not absolutely judicious with the throttle application. Even Walter Röhrl found the CGT scary calling it "one of the most dangerous cars on the road".Vice said:This is true in some cases, but a reputable dealer will strongly recommend taking lessons.
As I said before, most Porches have quirks that need to be addressed. The one that was involved in this accident had a tendency to spin out from the rear end due to engine placement.
He was not the driver.Malice said:That's what happens when you drive too fast. Life is not a movie.
Seriously.Fatal Jay said:It's ironic he died this way. RIP
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.