"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Paul Janka?

azanon

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Does anyone know if we ever heard from Paul Janka; the real-life Casanova from New York?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yea, the MSNBC big topic of debate? Yea...the guy deserves big props, imo. He is right to the point and straightforward. Sure, his tidbit in his ebook about having a girl tipsy isn't a good idea(Can do without in my opinion), everything else seems fine. ITs funny, on his thread in the forum on MSNBC.com, like 85% of the posters(Women) there criticize him just because he's frustrating their ego(being honest with women about not wanting to date them before hand, not being responsible for their feelings or overexpectations, being confident in himself, going for what he wants). But deep down, they'd say they wouldn't go for a guy like that, but in reality...they prolly would. Women don't want a loser...they want a winner and eventho some "players" are trash(lying womanizers who are too cowardly to let women know they're seeing other people)...they're much closer to a considered "winner" than a guy women can walk on.
 

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I just wonder if he made a big mistake going public. The masses continue to crucify him, but OTOH some opine that there's no such thing as bad press.
 

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^ True that.
Also, its fine that he's going public with this. Some guys really need that wake up call. Won't affect how we get women whatsoever.
 

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Back to my original question, I guess the answer was no. I asked Rollo T. personally as well with a "personal message" (since he said he was going to email Janka), but he ignored it as he has ignored PM's of mine in the past. I presume he just hasn't had time to respond since I'm the kind of person that likes to give someone the benefit of the doubt.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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