"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Pattern Orders?

Hobo13

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 24, 2002
Messages
49
Reaction score
0
I'm working on some custom patterns for my target at the moment. Girl has bf, who is ****ty etc. etc. blah whatever.
My question is you think I should run "boyfriend destroyer" patterns first or patterns which make her associate great things with me (intense connection, falling in love, sex whatever) first?

I've been thinking that a lot of girls may react negatively to boyfriend destroyer patterns and start defending their boyfriends and thus would be repellant to hearing about how great you are. Also b/c she may react negatively it may destroy what you had been working for when you were making her associate good feelings with you with the connection patterns.

And on a side note, would it be better to refer to the boyfriend as "boyfriend", borefriend, or by his name or by something like "that guy you're seeing"?
 
Last edited:

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

JohnnyVegas

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 7, 2002
Messages
124
Reaction score
0
You shouldn't spend so much time on her and you should find other women.
 

Sire

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 30, 2002
Messages
212
Reaction score
0
Location
Atlanta, GA USA
Patterns are gay..but if you want this girl to think your some kinda wierdo go ahead and use em.
 

Hobo13

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 24, 2002
Messages
49
Reaction score
0
Yes, I agree that patterns are toolish. I'm not exactly intending on using them, but that was the quickest way to communicate the idea. I'm not memorizing any lines or anything, I'm just making the girl think and realize some sh1t cos she's "confused" or whatever.
 

Dee-Zy

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 15, 2000
Messages
2,582
Reaction score
5
Age
42
Location
Montreal
If you don't know how to use patterns - don't even try.

You don't know how to use patterns.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

Read more...

Sire

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 30, 2002
Messages
212
Reaction score
0
Location
Atlanta, GA USA
She sounds like a waste of time to me, especially if she has a borefriend already. But if you really, really gotta have her then I would suggest simply demenstrating your value by letting her see you with other girls. Try to connect with her by talking about things she really likes. Don't mention her boyfriend at all when you talk to her either, you'll just remind her of him. Let her come to her own descision about you being a better catch than he is.
On top of all this, date other women!

Sire
 

Hobo13

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 24, 2002
Messages
49
Reaction score
0
Dee-Zy, perhaps. I don't really want to use patterns, just speaking more effectively and convincingly. I'm already quite good at it, I'm just getting down to the nitty gritty. And analyzing it to the utmost. Just trying to get other's opinions on said matter.

Sire, I don't consider it a waste of time. This girl is one of many projects I have going on simultaneously, but I do not feel it is wasteful to learn something from an experience. I very much so consider it a learning experience, and if I bag the chick in the end - so much the better, but neither do I care that much.
 

Dee-Zy

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 15, 2000
Messages
2,582
Reaction score
5
Age
42
Location
Montreal
Then keep doing ya things - but do yourself a favor and don't try patterns. It is one thing to understand them but another to master them. Nobody should use patterns unless they master it or gets constant support from somebody who does master it.

To make a long sentence short - forget patterns.
 

iceHawk

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 15, 2003
Messages
31
Reaction score
0
Age
43
Location
Toronto
just out of curiosity, how long did it take for you to learn SS well?? For me 4 months of constant practice made me fairly proficient.
 
Top