"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Pattern Orders?

Hobo13

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I'm working on some custom patterns for my target at the moment. Girl has bf, who is ****ty etc. etc. blah whatever.
My question is you think I should run "boyfriend destroyer" patterns first or patterns which make her associate great things with me (intense connection, falling in love, sex whatever) first?

I've been thinking that a lot of girls may react negatively to boyfriend destroyer patterns and start defending their boyfriends and thus would be repellant to hearing about how great you are. Also b/c she may react negatively it may destroy what you had been working for when you were making her associate good feelings with you with the connection patterns.

And on a side note, would it be better to refer to the boyfriend as "boyfriend", borefriend, or by his name or by something like "that guy you're seeing"?
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You shouldn't spend so much time on her and you should find other women.
 

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Patterns are gay..but if you want this girl to think your some kinda wierdo go ahead and use em.
 

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Yes, I agree that patterns are toolish. I'm not exactly intending on using them, but that was the quickest way to communicate the idea. I'm not memorizing any lines or anything, I'm just making the girl think and realize some sh1t cos she's "confused" or whatever.
 

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If you don't know how to use patterns - don't even try.

You don't know how to use patterns.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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She sounds like a waste of time to me, especially if she has a borefriend already. But if you really, really gotta have her then I would suggest simply demenstrating your value by letting her see you with other girls. Try to connect with her by talking about things she really likes. Don't mention her boyfriend at all when you talk to her either, you'll just remind her of him. Let her come to her own descision about you being a better catch than he is.
On top of all this, date other women!

Sire
 

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Dee-Zy, perhaps. I don't really want to use patterns, just speaking more effectively and convincingly. I'm already quite good at it, I'm just getting down to the nitty gritty. And analyzing it to the utmost. Just trying to get other's opinions on said matter.

Sire, I don't consider it a waste of time. This girl is one of many projects I have going on simultaneously, but I do not feel it is wasteful to learn something from an experience. I very much so consider it a learning experience, and if I bag the chick in the end - so much the better, but neither do I care that much.
 

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Then keep doing ya things - but do yourself a favor and don't try patterns. It is one thing to understand them but another to master them. Nobody should use patterns unless they master it or gets constant support from somebody who does master it.

To make a long sentence short - forget patterns.
 

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just out of curiosity, how long did it take for you to learn SS well?? For me 4 months of constant practice made me fairly proficient.
 
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