"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Patience/Anger

Rainman4707

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So I'm in kitchen two days ago with my GF & decide I want to see what she looks like in my loose fitting vest. She tries it on & looks very sexy (she has big boobs) She said "oh yeah I was meaning to chat about something. My mother asked me if I'm going topless on holiday & I'm considering it. (I'm going on holiday with her)"

She said I'm thinking about going topless, I'm not asking your permission I'm just telling you I might do it.

I told her I don't like that idea, she said we need to compromise on situations like this.
After experiencing a few situations like this I think the best action is not to get too angry (when I was on my own & thought about her topless on holiday my first thought is one of anger)
Sometimes people say things in the heat of the moment that they do not mean.
Maybe it's best to keep cool
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Atom Smasher

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What's a compromise? Only one boob out?
 

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You should have joked about it... offered to take some pictures. Complement her on her breasts and tell her you understand why she want to show them off.
 

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Her mom wants her to go topless? What do you mean by topless on holiday? Is it like a party during a holiday where she wants to take her top off? Do they do that kind of stuff at family parties? If theyre that big, wouldnt they be flopping all over the place if no clothing was there to contain them? Seems a little odd to me, Ive never heard of anything like this.
 

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The context is important. If shes just going to go topless to tan, it's likely not a huge issue, you'll see that all the time when you're at vacation destinations.

If she wants to just walk around topless however, that's a different story because it's more exhibitionist.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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relax bro aint that big of deal if shes with u not showin off to other dudes.
 

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RangerMIke said:
You should have joked about it... offered to take some pictures. Complement her on her breasts and tell her you understand why she want to show them off.
This. Or you could have made fun of her for being desperate for attention. When a girl proposes to do something stupid, do not EVER give her a serious response.
 

Rainman4707

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She did'nt go topless. As it happens I did'nt see one women topless during the holiday. A sign was up at the pool area which read "no topless"

@ chemgod :- no it was'nt a family holiday. Her mom asked her if she was going to go topless. For tanning reasons most likely. Their not huge, but they are big & impressive.
 
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