"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Rainman4707

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So I'm in kitchen two days ago with my GF & decide I want to see what she looks like in my loose fitting vest. She tries it on & looks very sexy (she has big boobs) She said "oh yeah I was meaning to chat about something. My mother asked me if I'm going topless on holiday & I'm considering it. (I'm going on holiday with her)"

She said I'm thinking about going topless, I'm not asking your permission I'm just telling you I might do it.

I told her I don't like that idea, she said we need to compromise on situations like this.
After experiencing a few situations like this I think the best action is not to get too angry (when I was on my own & thought about her topless on holiday my first thought is one of anger)
Sometimes people say things in the heat of the moment that they do not mean.
Maybe it's best to keep cool
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Atom Smasher

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What's a compromise? Only one boob out?
 

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You should have joked about it... offered to take some pictures. Complement her on her breasts and tell her you understand why she want to show them off.
 

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Her mom wants her to go topless? What do you mean by topless on holiday? Is it like a party during a holiday where she wants to take her top off? Do they do that kind of stuff at family parties? If theyre that big, wouldnt they be flopping all over the place if no clothing was there to contain them? Seems a little odd to me, Ive never heard of anything like this.
 

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The context is important. If shes just going to go topless to tan, it's likely not a huge issue, you'll see that all the time when you're at vacation destinations.

If she wants to just walk around topless however, that's a different story because it's more exhibitionist.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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relax bro aint that big of deal if shes with u not showin off to other dudes.
 

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RangerMIke said:
You should have joked about it... offered to take some pictures. Complement her on her breasts and tell her you understand why she want to show them off.
This. Or you could have made fun of her for being desperate for attention. When a girl proposes to do something stupid, do not EVER give her a serious response.
 

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She did'nt go topless. As it happens I did'nt see one women topless during the holiday. A sign was up at the pool area which read "no topless"

@ chemgod :- no it was'nt a family holiday. Her mom asked her if she was going to go topless. For tanning reasons most likely. Their not huge, but they are big & impressive.
 
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