Path to learning Game

[itouchyou]

I got a sh1t story too, but I haven't been able to solve the game problem.

I'm ten years in, 30+ PDFs & 10 physical books or so on game, easily 1000 cold approaches, plenty of night game, and I'm still a disgrace and as capable as a doorknob.

If I recall your posts you got conditioned/validated as boy, what else did you do to get on top?

I have a question. Do you socialize without the intent of meeting women? Significantly?

I met with a friend of mine yesterday that I hadn't seen in maybe 7-10 years. Last time I saw him, he was a scrawny kid and while he was normal, didn't strike me as someone confident or competent. Just a stereotypical nerd. When I saw him yesterday, he shocked me because he had gained a ton of muscle, his posture was great, and he was very sharp from a conversational perspective. He had that magnetic charisma that you see in very social guys. Turns out, this guy was extremely social. He put himself out there and conditioned himself to become that person. Pretty much an alpha, I was very impressed.

I think if you are just approaching and doing game related things, you need to consider stepping back and actually try living a life for yourself and become more socially competent that way.

Social skills are very important, and when you socialize a lot, if you do it enough you can become socially dominant. So much so that who you are naturally is someone that exudes "game". It'll solve your problems with women IMO.

 

[RazorRambo24]

I got a sh1t story too, but I haven't been able to solve the game problem.

I'm ten years in, 30+ PDFs & 10 physical books or so on game, easily 1000 cold approaches, plenty of night game, and I'm still a disgrace and as capable as a doorknob.

If I recall your posts you got conditioned/validated as boy, what else did you do to get on top?

First of all man kudos to you for your persistence and strength. Definitely 2 key factors in all of this.

Secondly, great question. I think a lot of it had to do with persistence as well, not giving up but also almost an egotistical belief in myself that I know I am capable of greatness and can have everything I wish for. Like having that secondary voice that comes in like hey man, "dont forget who the fucc u are and who you were before all this bad s.ht happened" "you are the fuccin man" "no one compares to you".

I would say having good people around me to keep me motivated or to help me feel alright/not simmer too much in the bad sh.t that happened in my life. Yes, I have simmered in and used to ruminate on negative sht that happened and let it affect me, but after some time I stopped caring.. and things that were "bad" that happened or "failures", i just learned to not give them energy. I had a mantra that "Life is Good" as well as other mantras that motivated me like "i'm the best". I would keep rehearsing stuff that i would often forget about that ive done or accomplished that felt were really uplifting or confidence proving moments.. Y'kno how they say its easier to remember negative occurrences in our life.. It's true but we can also reprogram ourselves to bring about alot of good memories too and good things we accomplish.. Its all about learning positive self talk.

I would also say that I really did alot of self motivation and kinda almost sat down and meditated on the MINDSET part of it. I knew there are things that some would consider obstacles or things that I don't excel at or don't have such as the best height, and at some point I barely had money, i barely had a job for many years.. I was doing various things for money on my own, such as graphic design and selling furniture I would buy for cheap/or pick up for free. I always had a hustlers mindset .. But I learned to program myself to feel like the best.

Part of that whole process is actually taking the steps to do things that make you feel great .. Which is stuff like consistently working on yourself, pushing yourself to take risks, putting yourself in places that might end up being uncomfortable in some ways, but through that developing dexterity.

At the end of the day Attitude is one of the greatest components to Optimism and winning in life.

 

[anonymous12345]

Social skills are very important, and when you socialize a lot, if you do it enough you can become socially dominant. So much so that who you are naturally is someone that exudes "game". It'll solve your problems with women IMO.

Yeah, I believe I socialise broadly and there's something socially competent about me I believe. I've socialised a lot, but am average, I don't perceive me as worse or better than those in the environments I am. I think I have guts for cold approach, virtually see no one do that in Sweden, but point being it doesn't give results/matter.

My SMV is ok, I'm no nerd or so.

Yeah, I have a lot of game focus, but I see no solution for that area otherwise.

I think the problem is my game. I don't manage to say anything that evokes interest. It might be absence of height.