"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Passion Paradox and why you should always care less

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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J. Darko

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You just tried to abuse science to back up the PUA-sh*t you preach on this forum and failed miserably by misinterpreting the article. Yes, the article says that the one who invests the most will also try the hardest to prove himself or herself to the other. However, that isn't a reason to invest the least in the relationship because first, the article says that it puts the other partner in a world of hurt and second the article suggests it's necessary to balance the investment.

So please, stop teaching and preaching this less emotional investment crap. It's pseudoscience: a misinterpretation of science that is used by so-called PUA's to sell their books and keep already desperate guys even further away fron girls.

Stop this fraud right now!
 

Ease

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J. Darko said:
You just tried to abuse science to back up the PUA-sh*t you preach on this forum and failed miserably by misinterpreting the article. Yes, the article says that the one who invests the most will also try the hardest to prove himself or herself to the other. However, that isn't a reason to invest the least in the relationship because first, the article says that it puts the other partner in a world of hurt and second the article suggests it's necessary to balance the investment.

So please, stop teaching and preaching this less emotional investment crap. It's pseudoscience: a misinterpretation of science that is used by so-called PUA's to sell their books and keep already desperate guys even further away fron girls.

Stop this fraud right now!
Wtf are you talking about?

It doesnt take a science article to know this fact. Everyone knows he who cares less, has power. Not caring is gold for relationship management. It solves 90% of relationship problems.

This is basic, i cant believe people cant come to terms with the basics. Any p*ssy that can't come to terms with male superiority in a relationship needs to get the **** to loveshack asap.
 

J. Darko

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Ease said:
Wtf are you talking about?

It doesnt take a science article to know this fact. Everyone knows he who cares less, has power. Not caring is gold for relationship management. It solves 90% of relationship problems.

This is basic, i cant believe people cant come to terms with the basics. Any p*ssy that can't come to terms with male superiority in a relationship needs to get the **** to loveshack asap.
Everybody knows...Oh really? How do you know? Do you know what all 6 billion people on this planet are thinking? I doubt that. All you can base your opinion on is your own subjective experiece and some deluded internet heroes on a board. No proof at all and if you read this article, you see that science isn't on your side either.
 

J. Darko

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Ease said:
Wtf are you talking about?

It doesnt take a science article to know this fact. Everyone knows he who cares less, has power. Not caring is gold for relationship management. It solves 90% of relationship problems.

This is basic, i cant believe people cant come to terms with the basics. Any p*ssy that can't come to terms with male superiority in a relationship needs to get the **** to loveshack asap.
Everybody knows...Oh really? How do you know? Do you know what all 6 billion people on this planet are thinking? I doubt that. All you can base your opinion on is your own subjective experience and some deluded internet heroes on a board. No proof at all and if you read this article, you see that science isn't on your side either.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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J. Darko said:
You just tried to abuse science to back up the PUA-sh*t you preach on this forum and failed miserably by misinterpreting the article. Yes, the article says that the one who invests the most will also try the hardest to prove himself or herself to the other. However, that isn't a reason to invest the least in the relationship because first, the article says that it puts the other partner in a world of hurt and second the article suggests it's necessary to balance the investment.

So please, stop teaching and preaching this less emotional investment crap. It's pseudoscience: a misinterpretation of science that is used by so-called PUA's to sell their books and keep already desperate guys even further away fron girls.

Stop this fraud right now!
You need some serious anger management. Why are you so butt-hurt over me posting an article on a website? It was food for thought, not gospel truth.
 

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DJjazzyJeff said:
You need some serious anger management. Why are you so butt-hurt over me posting an article on a website? It was food for thought, not gospel truth.
Well, you've hit upon the main weakness of internet discussions: any moron can chime in. But let's forget that and address the article...

It's best to have a fairly close balance with the man showing slightly less affection for the woman than vice-versa. If he shows no affection or only a tiny amount, the woman will feel bad and bail. If he shows too much, the woman will get bored and leave. I think you have to closely watch her interest level. But if she's going the same thing, then the relationship won't last, because if one starts backing away, the other will, which will cause the first to do it more, and turn into a vicious cycle where the parties will split.
 
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