"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Tix said:
and you need better massages......or a chronically sore neck :p
Good sex relieves stress. A good massage (without sex) just causes frustration and more stress. Think about it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Good sex relieves stress. A good massage (without sex) just causes frustration and more stress. Think about it.
Good Sex can cause sore bodies....

Solution: sex with an HB masseuse :cool:
 

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a good massage puts me to sleep like a baby.

I am a massage nut.. always have been. I have to have one a week
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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mpimpin said:
Good Sex can cause sore bodies....

Solution: sex with an HB masseuse :cool:
And lay off the ****.... :trouble:
 

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backbreaker said:
a good massage puts me to sleep like a baby.

I am a massage nut.. always have been. I have to have one a week
Massages are nice, but I manage without them. But speaking of "nuts", I need to bust one of them at least every 3 days.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Backbreaker, that line about the purple drank had me busting up, lol! As a fellow brudda here I used to think the race thing got in the way(I prefer latinas myself) and blamed it for a lot of the problems I was having. I've come to realize it's just me. Not that it isn't ever an issue, it is still in 2007, but it can be overcome. However, one thing that often is still a problem is families though. You might win a girl over but if she comes from a family with an old mindset that can present some problems.
 
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