"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Pass...Or Fail...

The TallOne

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I think the DJ Bible needs to be updated with more information with regards to 'tests' that women do. IMO. What tests they place, and how to counter them.

Anyway...

This one chick that I know has a good interest in me, decides to play the "I'll ignore him game, and see what happens." As what happend today.

I don't chase her, nor do I go out of my way to see her. Unfournately, I was put into a position today where I didn't have a choice. I am a guard at a pool, she is a camp counsler.

I was guarding the "camp swim", and she was in the area herself. I was told that I didn't need to guard, because we already had enough on staff. So, I decide to get my cardio in for the day (had to get it done quickly, was reporting back to work soon), and I start doing laps. She jumps in also, with a few other people. I can tell she is looking my way when I swim, as if she's trying to see if I notice her with other people.

I do my laps, and I hop out, and within minutes, so does she. I knew then, 99.9%, that she was testing me. Espically after the camp left, and she came back into the pool area because she "forgot" something. Yeah, right.

From what little information I have gathered from the DJ Bible, and the search function, the ability to pass this sort of test is to show that you don't care if she hangs out with other people, because you don't come across desperate, correct?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Still, if you are interested in her, you shouldn't completely ignore her existence. At the end of the day, go up to her on your own terms and make some chit chat. She'll be so dying for attention by then that her appreciation for you will be peaked.
 

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I had seen her in the hallway a few hours before, and said "hey, how are you doin" as I walked by her.

When I was moving lane lines (when she came back in) she was walking behind me, and I said "you better not push me in" in a very jokingly manner. She said with a evil grin "why not?" "I said back "Cause, this is the only good shirt I got, and if it gets wet, I'm gonna have to walk around topless" She laughed. I also said "I knew you were thinking of pushing me in.. I know it" She said with a laugh "I didn't think of it till you said somethin, but, I should have" (or somethin to that effect)

I acknowledged her presence, I didn't go outa my way to ignore her. I just didn't make a big fit/pursuit when I saw she was hanging out with other people. Thats all.
 

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Originally posted by The TallOne
Anyone else?
Just don't give a flip about what she does.

If she starts disrespecting you or gets *****y you have failed her test or are doing a fairly poor job managing your time around her.

You are a man who doesn't have time for games. Maintain interest in women that arn't going to act like little girls.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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