"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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J-Unit

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I got invited to my first party yesterday, I'm not going to know a lot of kids, how should I handle this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If this is the first party you hve ever been to, you live a sad life. Just kidding. Just act yourself at the arty, don't pretend to be something you are not. Be confident, outgoing, and optimistic. Don't complain much, if at all. And talk to everyone and dance with all the girls.
 

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I just really started to work on my social life now. It didn't exist before. :)
 

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make sure the party you are going to is not a wiener fest, call in advance to see if girls are showing up.....:crackup:.
 

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I was invited by a girl and its at a girls house and a girl is driving me there. I'll call ahead to see if its weiner fest though, just for you:D .
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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JSH

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lol, sounds good. The important point is to have fun and to appear as if you are having fun.
 

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Get sh*t faced
 

AmazingTricks

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Originally posted by oakraiderz2
Get sh*t faced
Commend this man. :D

if you never been to a party before and you want to see how you will act at parties just get really drunk and find out!
 

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Lol :D , guys but seriously, you don't want to get drunk. Hang-overs are real b**ches.:down:
 

familyguyfan

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Originally posted by wavejams007
Lol :D , guys but seriously, you don't want to get drunk. Hang-overs are real b**ches.:down:
Fine. At least get tipsy.


For your first one I wouldn't start out getting sh*tfaced, so just get moderately drunk. Enough to have a good time, but not enough to feel like sh*t later.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It was an alright party for my first time, I guess. I didn't drink much. Most girls there were pretty drunk and one was flirting very heavily with me, the house owner seperated us though. At the end of the night I was the only guy at the house, but most of the girls were either my friends or had boyfriends.
 

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Originally posted by wavejams007
Lol :D , guys but seriously, you don't want to get drunk. Hang-overs are real b**ches.:down:
Drink water and take a multivitamin. = No hang over.
 

wavejams007

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Originally posted by Vincent
Drink water and take a multivitamin. = No hang over.
Does that really work?:confused:
 

Vincent

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Originally posted by wavejams007
Does that really work?:confused:
Yes it does. Drink like 20 oz's of water to help prevent against dehydration and flush out the excess alcohol in your system before you go to bed and a multivitamin will help return the vitamins you lost.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by J-Unit
It was an alright party for my first time, I guess. I didn't drink much. Most girls there were pretty drunk and one was flirting very heavily with me, the house owner seperated us though. At the end of the night I was the only guy at the house, but most of the girls were either my friends or had boyfriends.
Any conversations? Were you the life of the party? Hook us up with details.
 
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