"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Party was a damn sausage fest... and girl has BF!

sw20racer

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 18, 2004
Messages
19
Reaction score
0
Age
45
Location
Midwest
So, I called up this girl to see what was up for the night. She said there was a house party going on late that night(she told me one of her 'guy friends'-already sounding bad- from high school just rented a house and was celebrating)and that I should come along. I told her, "Ok, but you call me when you're ready." She did call me up, an hour later than expected though.

I meet up with her at the house; she got out of her car with another couple and her boyfriend(I didn't know he was till later on). Go in the house and start talking to other guys in there... didn't know anybody but the girl. As more people come over, it is starting to look bad. All I see are a bunch of guys... I think the total number was something like 5 girls and 15 guys or so.

4 of the girls were pretty hot but they all had their boyfriends with them. I also barely got to talk to the girl that invited me along... she was too busy talking to everybody else or smoking out in the cold. We talked for maybe 15-20 minutes at the most... and nothing that indicated IL.

I think I actually did better with the other hot girls, but they were all pretty much wasted(so was I). All the girls eventually left with their boyfriends.

I left at 5-6 in the morning with a hangover and no new numbers. Damn, trying to use the girl as a 'hookup' to her other friends didn't seem to work... as they were all taken anyway.

Do you guys think I should still keep in touch with her? I don't ever plan on calling her again to do anything.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

coldcoal

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 17, 2001
Messages
319
Reaction score
1
You got nothing out of it, unless you made new friends.
 

sw20racer

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 18, 2004
Messages
19
Reaction score
0
Age
45
Location
Midwest
Some of the guys were pretty cool... we ended up talking about guy stuff, like cars and home theaters. I could picture myself hanging out with them... I DO need more friends.

but as for the girl's BF, I don't really want to know him too well, if at all.
 

coldcoal

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 17, 2001
Messages
319
Reaction score
1
It's alright. She was vague and you found the bottom line. If you can see yourself hanging with these guys, then go back and hang with them. Get to know who they know. As far as the girl, toss her aside "romatically" for now, just use her invites to expand your circle of friends.

You don't have to make only female friends to meet more females.
 
Top