Thatfeel21
Senior Don Juan
To all the dudes out there who regularly get coochie at parties...do ya'll normally show up with a relaxed laid back mentality or do ya'll possess "the cool guy/swagger mentality"
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
WC2 said:Definitely energetic.
Energetic man = Successful man
Energetic man = Well Spoken man
Energetic man = Knowledgeable man
Laid back men equate to lazy and not so forthcoming.
I used to think that laid back guys were real cool. They chill on the side with not much to say and occasionally make a short subtle comment.
Reality check - Chicks don't dig this
Chicks want an energetic man who knows what he's talking about and isn't afraid to say it. And energetic man wreaks of sexual energy when he talks because he isn't afraid to speak his mind and run the conversation. The conversation revolves around his topics and in turn, the women revolve around him.
The slouch in the corner who mumbles something every few minutes sure as hell doesn't look as appealing to most sexually inclined women.
You're 31, but still extremely ignorant.betterthandead said:Some of you actually believe by behaving in a manner that is separate from your true personality is going to attract someone. You may be right, but can you do that for several months or several years?
Yeah, forget about being yourself, be someone else because you suck.
WC2 said:You're 31, but still extremely ignorant.
You shape your own personality. People aren't "born" with a personality. Sure, some of it is in our genes, but most of our personality is created by OURSELVES. LAZY people are content with the person they are and don't work to improve that person. DRIVEN people work to improve who they are by changing their bad habits.
Isn't the whole concept of this site to "improve" who you are? Change is good, being stagnant and stubborn is not.
We are always the same people at our core, but a change in habits and actions are what change people from lazy/boring humans into successful/interesting humans.
The whole "be yourself" attitude is fine, as long as you don't take it as a stance to do nothing to improve your life and personality.
WC2 said:You're 31, but still extremely ignorant.
You shape your own personality. People aren't "born" with a personality. Sure, some of it is in our genes, but most of our personality is created by OURSELVES. LAZY people are content with the person they are and don't work to improve that person. DRIVEN people work to improve who they are by changing their bad habits.
Isn't the whole concept of this site to "improve" who you are? Change is good, being stagnant and stubborn is not.
We are always the same people at our core, but a change in habits and actions are what change people from lazy/boring humans into successful/interesting humans.
The whole "be yourself" attitude is fine, as long as you don't take it as a stance to do nothing to improve your life and personality.