Thatfeel21
Senior Don Juan
To all the dudes out there who regularly get coochie at parties...do ya'll normally show up with a relaxed laid back mentality or do ya'll possess "the cool guy/swagger mentality"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
WC2 said:Definitely energetic.
Energetic man = Successful man
Energetic man = Well Spoken man
Energetic man = Knowledgeable man
Laid back men equate to lazy and not so forthcoming.
I used to think that laid back guys were real cool. They chill on the side with not much to say and occasionally make a short subtle comment.
Reality check - Chicks don't dig this
Chicks want an energetic man who knows what he's talking about and isn't afraid to say it. And energetic man wreaks of sexual energy when he talks because he isn't afraid to speak his mind and run the conversation. The conversation revolves around his topics and in turn, the women revolve around him.
The slouch in the corner who mumbles something every few minutes sure as hell doesn't look as appealing to most sexually inclined women.
You're 31, but still extremely ignorant.betterthandead said:Some of you actually believe by behaving in a manner that is separate from your true personality is going to attract someone. You may be right, but can you do that for several months or several years?
Yeah, forget about being yourself, be someone else because you suck.
WC2 said:You're 31, but still extremely ignorant.
You shape your own personality. People aren't "born" with a personality. Sure, some of it is in our genes, but most of our personality is created by OURSELVES. LAZY people are content with the person they are and don't work to improve that person. DRIVEN people work to improve who they are by changing their bad habits.
Isn't the whole concept of this site to "improve" who you are? Change is good, being stagnant and stubborn is not.
We are always the same people at our core, but a change in habits and actions are what change people from lazy/boring humans into successful/interesting humans.
The whole "be yourself" attitude is fine, as long as you don't take it as a stance to do nothing to improve your life and personality.
WC2 said:You're 31, but still extremely ignorant.
You shape your own personality. People aren't "born" with a personality. Sure, some of it is in our genes, but most of our personality is created by OURSELVES. LAZY people are content with the person they are and don't work to improve that person. DRIVEN people work to improve who they are by changing their bad habits.
Isn't the whole concept of this site to "improve" who you are? Change is good, being stagnant and stubborn is not.
We are always the same people at our core, but a change in habits and actions are what change people from lazy/boring humans into successful/interesting humans.
The whole "be yourself" attitude is fine, as long as you don't take it as a stance to do nothing to improve your life and personality.