Thatfeel21
Senior Don Juan
To all the dudes out there who regularly get coochie at parties...do ya'll normally show up with a relaxed laid back mentality or do ya'll possess "the cool guy/swagger mentality"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
WC2 said:Definitely energetic.
Energetic man = Successful man
Energetic man = Well Spoken man
Energetic man = Knowledgeable man
Laid back men equate to lazy and not so forthcoming.
I used to think that laid back guys were real cool. They chill on the side with not much to say and occasionally make a short subtle comment.
Reality check - Chicks don't dig this
Chicks want an energetic man who knows what he's talking about and isn't afraid to say it. And energetic man wreaks of sexual energy when he talks because he isn't afraid to speak his mind and run the conversation. The conversation revolves around his topics and in turn, the women revolve around him.
The slouch in the corner who mumbles something every few minutes sure as hell doesn't look as appealing to most sexually inclined women.
You're 31, but still extremely ignorant.betterthandead said:Some of you actually believe by behaving in a manner that is separate from your true personality is going to attract someone. You may be right, but can you do that for several months or several years?
Yeah, forget about being yourself, be someone else because you suck.
WC2 said:You're 31, but still extremely ignorant.
You shape your own personality. People aren't "born" with a personality. Sure, some of it is in our genes, but most of our personality is created by OURSELVES. LAZY people are content with the person they are and don't work to improve that person. DRIVEN people work to improve who they are by changing their bad habits.
Isn't the whole concept of this site to "improve" who you are? Change is good, being stagnant and stubborn is not.
We are always the same people at our core, but a change in habits and actions are what change people from lazy/boring humans into successful/interesting humans.
The whole "be yourself" attitude is fine, as long as you don't take it as a stance to do nothing to improve your life and personality.
WC2 said:You're 31, but still extremely ignorant.
You shape your own personality. People aren't "born" with a personality. Sure, some of it is in our genes, but most of our personality is created by OURSELVES. LAZY people are content with the person they are and don't work to improve that person. DRIVEN people work to improve who they are by changing their bad habits.
Isn't the whole concept of this site to "improve" who you are? Change is good, being stagnant and stubborn is not.
We are always the same people at our core, but a change in habits and actions are what change people from lazy/boring humans into successful/interesting humans.
The whole "be yourself" attitude is fine, as long as you don't take it as a stance to do nothing to improve your life and personality.