"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Party hook up, than nothing.

It's-Me

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I'm good at hooking up at parties and dances... I grind with all these hot girls, make out with at least one of them and get most of their numbers, but I can't seem to get passed there.

I text them and call them sometimes to meet up and that's when things always f*ck up. Their usually busy or they dont answer their phones often.

Any ideas?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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There could be a ton of reasons for this. First off, take a look at the girls you are trying to game here. These are party girls. Girls that often go out on weekends, get drunk and use it as an excuse to hook up with other men (in a nut shell). They may not be looking for any kind of "sexual" interaction outside of the bar scene (at least they have an excuse if they're drunk, it makes them feel less slutty). You may not have built up enough IL when you got the number and/or prior to asking them out. Or they must just be sincerely busy. Girls flake, it happens. There's not much you can really do besides tightening your game. Party/bar girls are usually scene as ONS's, I would avoid trying to get their numbers and meeting up with them later just go for the one night shag. But if you do manage to find a classy girl that meets your standards and plays all your little heart strings then don't get too discouraged if they're flaky the first time. Sometimes you just have to be consistent. Give it a couple days and try again, if a girl blows me off a third time it's NEXT.
 

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I have exactly the same problem.... even with chick that aren't "Party Girls" I got no idea what I'm doing wrong lol
 

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Analyzeit said:
I have exactly the same problem.... even with chick that aren't "Party Girls" I got no idea what I'm doing wrong lol
Same here bro, most of the girls I met were not drunk and didn't drink that night.

I think one of the reason's is because of social proof. If I knew everyone at the parties and everyone came talk to me and her friends knew me, than I'd have a lot more chances I believe. That's the way it works in high school.
 

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Yeah I have no problem getting numbers, from anyone anywhere... but nothing happens afterwards... I'm going to put it down to meeting the wrong chicks, even though its probably unlikely, because it happens so much!

So I'm Just going to stick to your idea, and be friends with everyone (apart from chicks who I have a chance of getting into) so then as you said, there friends will kind of "pressure" her into meeting again, yeah, that exactly how high school works,

The more friends you have=More people that you meet=More Girls=More Chances

I'd like to see someone argue with that
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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