"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Party hook up, than nothing.

It's-Me

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I'm good at hooking up at parties and dances... I grind with all these hot girls, make out with at least one of them and get most of their numbers, but I can't seem to get passed there.

I text them and call them sometimes to meet up and that's when things always f*ck up. Their usually busy or they dont answer their phones often.

Any ideas?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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There could be a ton of reasons for this. First off, take a look at the girls you are trying to game here. These are party girls. Girls that often go out on weekends, get drunk and use it as an excuse to hook up with other men (in a nut shell). They may not be looking for any kind of "sexual" interaction outside of the bar scene (at least they have an excuse if they're drunk, it makes them feel less slutty). You may not have built up enough IL when you got the number and/or prior to asking them out. Or they must just be sincerely busy. Girls flake, it happens. There's not much you can really do besides tightening your game. Party/bar girls are usually scene as ONS's, I would avoid trying to get their numbers and meeting up with them later just go for the one night shag. But if you do manage to find a classy girl that meets your standards and plays all your little heart strings then don't get too discouraged if they're flaky the first time. Sometimes you just have to be consistent. Give it a couple days and try again, if a girl blows me off a third time it's NEXT.
 

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I have exactly the same problem.... even with chick that aren't "Party Girls" I got no idea what I'm doing wrong lol
 

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Analyzeit said:
I have exactly the same problem.... even with chick that aren't "Party Girls" I got no idea what I'm doing wrong lol
Same here bro, most of the girls I met were not drunk and didn't drink that night.

I think one of the reason's is because of social proof. If I knew everyone at the parties and everyone came talk to me and her friends knew me, than I'd have a lot more chances I believe. That's the way it works in high school.
 

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Yeah I have no problem getting numbers, from anyone anywhere... but nothing happens afterwards... I'm going to put it down to meeting the wrong chicks, even though its probably unlikely, because it happens so much!

So I'm Just going to stick to your idea, and be friends with everyone (apart from chicks who I have a chance of getting into) so then as you said, there friends will kind of "pressure" her into meeting again, yeah, that exactly how high school works,

The more friends you have=More people that you meet=More Girls=More Chances

I'd like to see someone argue with that
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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