"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Party hook up, than nothing.

It's-Me

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I'm good at hooking up at parties and dances... I grind with all these hot girls, make out with at least one of them and get most of their numbers, but I can't seem to get passed there.

I text them and call them sometimes to meet up and that's when things always f*ck up. Their usually busy or they dont answer their phones often.

Any ideas?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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There could be a ton of reasons for this. First off, take a look at the girls you are trying to game here. These are party girls. Girls that often go out on weekends, get drunk and use it as an excuse to hook up with other men (in a nut shell). They may not be looking for any kind of "sexual" interaction outside of the bar scene (at least they have an excuse if they're drunk, it makes them feel less slutty). You may not have built up enough IL when you got the number and/or prior to asking them out. Or they must just be sincerely busy. Girls flake, it happens. There's not much you can really do besides tightening your game. Party/bar girls are usually scene as ONS's, I would avoid trying to get their numbers and meeting up with them later just go for the one night shag. But if you do manage to find a classy girl that meets your standards and plays all your little heart strings then don't get too discouraged if they're flaky the first time. Sometimes you just have to be consistent. Give it a couple days and try again, if a girl blows me off a third time it's NEXT.
 

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I have exactly the same problem.... even with chick that aren't "Party Girls" I got no idea what I'm doing wrong lol
 

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Analyzeit said:
I have exactly the same problem.... even with chick that aren't "Party Girls" I got no idea what I'm doing wrong lol
Same here bro, most of the girls I met were not drunk and didn't drink that night.

I think one of the reason's is because of social proof. If I knew everyone at the parties and everyone came talk to me and her friends knew me, than I'd have a lot more chances I believe. That's the way it works in high school.
 

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Yeah I have no problem getting numbers, from anyone anywhere... but nothing happens afterwards... I'm going to put it down to meeting the wrong chicks, even though its probably unlikely, because it happens so much!

So I'm Just going to stick to your idea, and be friends with everyone (apart from chicks who I have a chance of getting into) so then as you said, there friends will kind of "pressure" her into meeting again, yeah, that exactly how high school works,

The more friends you have=More people that you meet=More Girls=More Chances

I'd like to see someone argue with that
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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