Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Part I - Your princess is in another castle! 40 Common cases reviewed!

loveshogun

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Correction, Nismo. All of your princesses are in MY castle.

Haha. Good post, bud. All of our new year members would do well to run with this advice. Specifically the four things we should ALWAYS be doing.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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This site has some great threads and this is a succinct version!
well worth the read. many thanks Nis !


CuriousGirl said:
5. The game is unfair - I'd disagree. Oh I would, wouldn't I. But generally I think women see it differently as they don't want sex quick and easy, most want a loving relationship quick and easy, which obviously isn't. So therefore see it as they having drawn the short straw.
It can't hurt to keep that in mind, and it can be used to your advantage in the same way that women use the guys-want-sex thing to their advantage.
Dating/the game is fair when the people in question want the same things from each other.
they may not want quick sex, but they have the option and its an option they take up from time to time. have you ever had a one nighter? or sex within the first couple of dates? could you go out and get laid within 4 hours of reading this?
thats the point, the majority of guys cant, take the blinkers off darling
 

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betheman said:
This site has some great threads and this is a succinct version!
well worth the read. many thanks Nis !




they may not want quick sex, but they have the option and its an option they take up from time to time. have you ever had a one nighter? or sex within the first couple of dates? could you go out and get laid within 4 hours of reading this?
thats the point, the majority of guys cant, take the blinkers off darling
Agreed. While men do hold the relationship card (sort of) and women hold the sex card (absolutely) it's not equal.

Women can get sex as fast as ordering a pizza. Most guys couldn't get a girlfriend/relationship in two or three weeks of trying.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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People here push Lamborghini's to clubs? No wonder I'm not seeing results.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Mike32ct said:
Agreed. While men do hold the relationship card (sort of) and women hold the sex card (absolutely) it's not equal.

Women can get sex as fast as ordering a pizza. Most guys couldn't get a girlfriend/relationship in two or three weeks of trying.
I'm glad this thread is stickied!!!

Mike, this here is totally true, yet lots of guys here delude themselves into thinking otherwise.

When you go against reality, reality wins.
 
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I really liked this post. It's humorous but meaningful, direct but insightful, and realistic without sounding bitter.
 

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This thread was so well received that I had to write a sequel! Many thanks to those who read and understand it well!

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=192273

There will still be posts here that have lots of whining, worrying, etc. and some people just don't get it. :rolleyes: Yes, I will review some of these cases.

There is no cure for stupidity. :crazy:
 

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Whenever I feel like I'm losing a bit of confidence, I'm always hesitant to come to these boards cause (for some reason) I think it'll bring me further down...and I'm always proven wrong. Thanks for the post, reignited the spark (it never should have gone out in the first place)!! :woo:, repped
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Mike32ct said:
Agreed. While men do hold the relationship card (sort of) and women hold the sex card (absolutely) it's not equal.

Women can get sex as fast as ordering a pizza. Most guys couldn't get a girlfriend/relationship in two or three weeks of trying.
Yeah but sex with random dudes who don't understand them or their needs will probably not satisfy them.

Seems obvious really, a lot of women like the comfort of a man they like and trust just as much as sex. For many the two go hand in hand. You're viewing it too much from a male perspective, women are completely different creatures.

Too many people on this site think things are so unfair and that women have it great, well guess what women have to deal with periods every month, hormones, having babies, being judged by friends and family constantly against the template of an "ideal woman", beauty magazines, overly competitive/judgemental friends, putting on weight easily, jeleousy which seems far more deadly then what us guys experience...the list goes on.

I'm a dude and no way would i ever want to be reborn as a chick!! Wake up guys and stop complaining.

Great post btw OP!
 

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Viagra4Soul said:
All your princesses belong us.
You stole my thought! Haha.

Kudos on the post nismo.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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