Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Paradise Lost

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Anyone read Paradise Lost? I finally got around to reading it and wasn't really impressed.

Milton took basic ideas from the bible and basically added conversations and textual details to it. I know a lot of it's fabricated but it doesn't seem like he really created anything too amazing...at least, not worthy of the "aura" that seems to go with this book.

I mean, I finished it and just kinda said "Okay..." through most of it. I'm not saying it was boring, it just wasn't anything great. It felt kind of like reading Grendel, the story some guy (forgot the name) wrote about the monster in Beowulf. He took and idea that was already established and just made some filler details for it. From a reading perspective it isn't bad, but it's like watching a spinoff show of a popular TV series, ya know?

Anyone else feel this way?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Yeah...I don't think so.
 

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I personally loved Milton's Paradise Lost. You are evaluating the epic poem from a far too contemporary standpoint, what Milton did in describing his protagonist, Satan, was to imbue a storyline that did not cast him as all that was evil but to give him a more human side if you will. Before there were true existentialist thinkers, Milton wrote the books with strong existentialist undertones that clashed with the dogma of moral absolutism; this, by itself, is a fascinating critique of religion and the constructs of faith. Milton's epic was ground-breaking and stirred considerable controversy upon publication. Additionally, I recommend you pay deeper attention to the lines, Milton's work has countless deeper allusions and intertextual references that, if caught, make the book substantially deeper. I think you only read the book at a superficial level.

-MV
 

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I remember reading it in high school and not being too impressed with it. But I will admit my taste in literature back then was not very broad. Good literature to me were the lyrics of Neil Peart on Rush's concept albums... :p

"Hold the red star proudly high in hand!"
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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MVP - No, trust me, I understand what he set out to do. Satan, however, is not the protagonist. There is no overall hero of this story.

You may be right, however, that I'm looking at it from a modern of a perspective. Even if this is true and I acknowledge it, I don't think I'll like the book any more than I do. :eek:
 
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