So here how it is:
I was a fairly overweight guy over an year ago (around 220 pounds). I realised that I needed to get fit again (I got in shape TWICE before relapsing to my obese mode again) and lost 42 pounds. (Insane fat loss and good muscle tones) Been hitting the gym and controlling my diet (macros watch, everyday!)
Since I have been shape before, I have been complimented before. It is not different this time either and it is prominent that some girls show interest.
However, there is this one situation I cannot seem to understand: A very close friend of mine (known for over a decade) saw pictures of me and has been complimenting me a lot ever since! (She is overseas so we communicate through tech modes).
I changed my DP and she specifically msged that she loved my DP! Sent a group photo once and she specifically said I look great! (Never done that before) Finally, I sent her another group picture of an event and she went on to say “Duster, you look so good! Damn haha! How come woman are not crushing on you?”
After the first incident, I called her up (weekly ritual) and she said that she was waiting for my call (never happened before since it is a routine thing for me) and she was very mindful of our conversation. She remembered our last conversation (she rarely did before) and even asked updates about certain events (she always forgets our conversations nor did she ever made any efforts to remember them). The second and third incident of compliments came after the phone call.
So, this got me thinking: is she being friendly or actually attracted to me? She has seen me lose weight twice and this is the 3rd time she saw me in shape. It is easier for me understand signs of strangers but when it comes to close friends, I am a goof.
DJs, your interpretations/ advice will be regarded! Thanks!
PS. Please, do not tell me the “friend zone” stuff. I am already aware of this. Think about educating your brother here who does not know about a certain situation.
I was a fairly overweight guy over an year ago (around 220 pounds). I realised that I needed to get fit again (I got in shape TWICE before relapsing to my obese mode again) and lost 42 pounds. (Insane fat loss and good muscle tones) Been hitting the gym and controlling my diet (macros watch, everyday!)
Since I have been shape before, I have been complimented before. It is not different this time either and it is prominent that some girls show interest.
However, there is this one situation I cannot seem to understand: A very close friend of mine (known for over a decade) saw pictures of me and has been complimenting me a lot ever since! (She is overseas so we communicate through tech modes).
I changed my DP and she specifically msged that she loved my DP! Sent a group photo once and she specifically said I look great! (Never done that before) Finally, I sent her another group picture of an event and she went on to say “Duster, you look so good! Damn haha! How come woman are not crushing on you?”
After the first incident, I called her up (weekly ritual) and she said that she was waiting for my call (never happened before since it is a routine thing for me) and she was very mindful of our conversation. She remembered our last conversation (she rarely did before) and even asked updates about certain events (she always forgets our conversations nor did she ever made any efforts to remember them). The second and third incident of compliments came after the phone call.
So, this got me thinking: is she being friendly or actually attracted to me? She has seen me lose weight twice and this is the 3rd time she saw me in shape. It is easier for me understand signs of strangers but when it comes to close friends, I am a goof.
DJs, your interpretations/ advice will be regarded! Thanks!
PS. Please, do not tell me the “friend zone” stuff. I am already aware of this. Think about educating your brother here who does not know about a certain situation.
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