You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
NSUballer said:
lol you just can't help it can ya? I'd actually love to meet you in real life....I outgame and tool fratboy American-Football players for fun on a quite regular basis.You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Im really not into meeting guys...L777 said:
So, you made a thread saying that women is the root of all evil rather than money and made a rant yourself, yet you made this post earlier in December.Moofahsa said:
It's true. I have this problem too. Girl recently told me "give me a few days, I still love you" and I have been rethinking it each day. Dunno man, I find myself more obsessed with work lately...like...I get all my work done early, and I mow the lawn before it's even long...keeps you busy. But sometimes, while working, your mind will drink, and the over analyzing will begin again.Moofahsa said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Good point, but the problem is that a great majority of us in this site do feel that way and yes, its a great flaw. I believe this is rooted from our lack of success with chicks in the present(and past) to begin with.LostAndConfused said:
where do you come up with this sh>t? lolFrancisco d'Anconia said:
Nah you got me all wrong bro. It is a learning experience, but you can't really apply it to anything else.Luke Skywalker said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.