"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Outer motivation?

LikRetsam

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There is a girl who inspires me to become more than I am. Her very thought makes me lose all interest in the pathetic activities I call hobbies.

I am chasing other girls. I do have more girls than I know what to do with. I do live the marvelous life a DJ is destined to live. But nothing, nothing, has ever been able to reduce what I do to some sort of boring mundane activity. An achievement reduced to nothing.

I have the same effect on her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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uhh...can you go more indepth into how she makes all your hobbies seem so trivial? doesn't seem too great but i can see your side. a dj should have hobbies but also goals and a passion.
 

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Hmm..

What are some of your hobbies? Some of your achievements?

Also, what exactly is it about her that makes you think that way of your hobbies?


I think that a real achievement is going up against all possible odds, and still coming out on top by sheer willpower and determination.

Just my thoughts.
 

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My oneitis had that effect on me. She made me want to do better. But now that I've kinda lost it, I can only depend on myself, which is how it really is in life you know. you really only have yourself to depend on because that is the only person you can control. Others...can fuk you over anytime. I'm not saying it will happen, but resting the essence of your very being with a girl is not a good idea man. GL lik
 

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Hmm...
I don't want to sound dumb or anything...but isn't it a good thing if this girl makes you want to be better? The second girl I had made me realize all of my insecurities, all of my weaknesses, and how I lacked real confidence. And after we dropped the whole thing, I kept improving and vowed to get better. But I just wouldn't do all of this just to impress someone,because that's the stupidest thing ever. If she makes your hobbies seem boring, I think that either you aren't dedicated enough to them or you don't like them as much as you think you do. But if you have the same effect on her, you must be pretty ****ing good as well.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Another exciting addition to your story Lik. Enjoy it.
 
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