"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ouch she didnt believe me!

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ok i met this girl i work with, to make a long story short, we started talking and she ended up liking some other dude i work with, i talked to him, and he said it would be cool if i tried to talk to her at the next level (he was my homeboy, and i told my homeboy that she liked him, thats why i asked)

so we talked a bit more, and was waiting for the rigth oppourtunity to see wats up with her, well it came last weekend i got a text from her saying that she has to tell me something, and she told me that she kinda liked me , blah blah, and it turned out to be her friends, this is the 2nd time her friends did that to me...so i thought fu*ck it, here's my opportunit, and it was all bad she said that she didnt believe me cause seh knows me too well (i flirt with the girls alot at work and hit on alot of customers there) but finally i was able to convince her, cause i wouldnt leave her alone till she said she believed me....i told her i would call her this week and see if we can go out and she said yeah as friends...ok my question is: how can i prove that im serious?

i know she said that she believes me, but i have my doubts....should i get her a little gift (i have stuffed animals still from when i was a kid, i was gonna give her that, $$$ saved!!! hahaha) anyway i want to build up on this and gain her trust...i called her and she said she was busy so i was gonna wait a few days to call her agian, but since me her and 6 other coworkers are going to the el*ephant ba*r that recently opened, i think it may be pointless to call her and ask her out this week...should i call anyway? thanks for your advice, and if ur gonna flame me, dont cause i want to make her believe me even if nothing ever comes out of this.....thanks

oh and i also talk to her about other girls, she knows i wanna get the number of some girl who works at another store in the mall, and its hard also cause her sister works there too so i really have to watch it...any advice will be appreciated: and by teh way i know someone's gonna ask this: she's 18.........thanks again for ur advice...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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So...let me get this straight.

*She's seeing some other guy

*You're a player, flirting with lots of women.

*You think giving her dusty, left-over-from-my-childhood, scruffy old toys will make her like you. (Why are you giving her anything? She hasn't earned a gift from you yet! You have to BRIBE girls to date you? NO AFC!)

*You tell her you want to get #'s and mack on other girls...

And yet you have no idea why she doesn't belive you?

Sorry Dude, I don't belive you either!
 
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lol nah nah she is interested in him, which she says is totally different from liking him, but i dont see how.....lol well i do like her and ill do wat i gotta do to get her
 

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Originally posted by la-migra-is-after-me
lol nah nah she is interested in him, which she says is totally different from liking him, but i dont see how.....lol well i do like her and ill do wat i gotta do to get her
Read the bible, your in the LJBF zone, or awfully close.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lol we'll see man, i dont have oneitis, i got my eye on this other hunny that works in teh mall, but i dont wanna give up on this one till the final no so we'll see
but thanks for ur advice, and all the advice from above
 
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