"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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ouch she didnt believe me!

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ok i met this girl i work with, to make a long story short, we started talking and she ended up liking some other dude i work with, i talked to him, and he said it would be cool if i tried to talk to her at the next level (he was my homeboy, and i told my homeboy that she liked him, thats why i asked)

so we talked a bit more, and was waiting for the rigth oppourtunity to see wats up with her, well it came last weekend i got a text from her saying that she has to tell me something, and she told me that she kinda liked me , blah blah, and it turned out to be her friends, this is the 2nd time her friends did that to me...so i thought fu*ck it, here's my opportunit, and it was all bad she said that she didnt believe me cause seh knows me too well (i flirt with the girls alot at work and hit on alot of customers there) but finally i was able to convince her, cause i wouldnt leave her alone till she said she believed me....i told her i would call her this week and see if we can go out and she said yeah as friends...ok my question is: how can i prove that im serious?

i know she said that she believes me, but i have my doubts....should i get her a little gift (i have stuffed animals still from when i was a kid, i was gonna give her that, $$$ saved!!! hahaha) anyway i want to build up on this and gain her trust...i called her and she said she was busy so i was gonna wait a few days to call her agian, but since me her and 6 other coworkers are going to the el*ephant ba*r that recently opened, i think it may be pointless to call her and ask her out this week...should i call anyway? thanks for your advice, and if ur gonna flame me, dont cause i want to make her believe me even if nothing ever comes out of this.....thanks

oh and i also talk to her about other girls, she knows i wanna get the number of some girl who works at another store in the mall, and its hard also cause her sister works there too so i really have to watch it...any advice will be appreciated: and by teh way i know someone's gonna ask this: she's 18.........thanks again for ur advice...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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So...let me get this straight.

*She's seeing some other guy

*You're a player, flirting with lots of women.

*You think giving her dusty, left-over-from-my-childhood, scruffy old toys will make her like you. (Why are you giving her anything? She hasn't earned a gift from you yet! You have to BRIBE girls to date you? NO AFC!)

*You tell her you want to get #'s and mack on other girls...

And yet you have no idea why she doesn't belive you?

Sorry Dude, I don't belive you either!
 
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lol nah nah she is interested in him, which she says is totally different from liking him, but i dont see how.....lol well i do like her and ill do wat i gotta do to get her
 

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lol nah nah she is interested in him, which she says is totally different from liking him, but i dont see how.....lol well i do like her and ill do wat i gotta do to get her
Read the bible, your in the LJBF zone, or awfully close.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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lol we'll see man, i dont have oneitis, i got my eye on this other hunny that works in teh mall, but i dont wanna give up on this one till the final no so we'll see
but thanks for ur advice, and all the advice from above
 
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