"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
other men are jellous of my success with women and they try to ruin me
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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They look at us and see someone that shouldn't have a higher level of success - than them. It's like they have this perceived entitlement mentality. As to me, they see someone that is not as stylishly dressed, or driving the latest car model, etc... and because they put stock (money, energy and effort) into these things and see someone else reaping benefits that they aren't... they have this "it's not fair" mindset.
If you look beneath the surface, it's flattering,and funny. These men are basing their worth and image on who you are. You're the leader. And... women being the perceptive creatures that they are, will see their behavior as weak and catty (neither of which, looks good on a man).
What can you do towards it?
The best thing is to disengage and not even acknowledge, but I haven't always taken my own advice.
Once I told a guy (while around his peers) "I wish you could get over me."
Another time, there was a guy that was for more cleaver with snide remarks (I'll give him that) I responded with "why are you bidding for my attention? I'm not taking you home." I made it sound sincere as if I really thought that this was his intention. He never bothered me again.
lol beta cucks worship you
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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no i just found it funny because i wouldnt want beta cucks to worship me so no its not like im jealous
cant tell if you are being serious or if its just your joke not being funny
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Guess they are not jealous of your spelling ability though...
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
im sure every tinder woman can say the same thing about beta cucks. free food on dates, free gifts, even expensive.. so youre like a woman. are you sure these dudes are not gay
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I WAS BEING SUPER SERIOUS WHY ARE YOU SOOOO COOL??!!
You obviously lack social awareness... do you have autism?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Why? Because humans need predictability, it gives us a sense of control over others. When you alter yourself, this is a threat to that preditability, so the logical attempt is to put us back into our places. Shaming comes as a natural tactic for women, to get back into their frame. The new you is a frame grab. Others around you have a desire to see normalcy, not your best interest.
Change all at once and people will accuse your personality of being a disingenuous reaction to having been burned. Do it subtly and persistently over a time and people will be more willing to accept the change as genuine. Always insist on change, but never too quickly.
no, if it had more gangster vibes then they would be sniffing flowers from underneath
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It’s a difference in inner game. For the shallow wanna be womanizer, even if he meets with a fair level of success or even much success, if his self worth derives from his notch count & he is externally validated by attention from women 2 things occur.
1. He tends to attract lower quality girls as a rule (who might be hot but have other liabilities)
2. He tends to hang out with other men who are similarly externally validated and thus in competition with him (and often this will be covert rather than overt). Hence the jealousy and the preening & the back stabbing behaviors.
The above man cares way to much how he is perceived by other men and his value is directly correlated to his success with women...mostly by volume.
Contrast that to a man with solid inner game. A man as described by @stormrider who is indifferent to women by volume & who rather picks and chooses whether a certain woman is worthy of his effort and investment.
Such a man is also impervious to the whims and jealousies of other men. He is indifferent to this as well so it does not affect him.
The indifference (otherwise known around here as IDGAF) permeates such a man’s vibe and is anchored in who he is at his core, which is internally validated and focused not on women as an end goal but on his own pursuits.
Externally validated men aspire to be internally validated solid guys and so they are drawn to men who exude this quality. It cannot be faked and the posers out there know it.
Hence the difference. Solid men with inner game are not going to be bothered by insecure externally validated attention seeking men anymore than they bother with attention w h o r e women. Solid men are going to interact with solid quality type women that the attention seeking men have trouble pulling.
Thus the dynamic Stormrider observes. My guess is Atom Smasher & Glassguy & Guru1000 have similar experiences for all exhibit solid inner game as demonstrated by the content and perspectives posted on SS.