Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Why do you want "the opertunity for a second date" anyway? That is not a good frame. You give them the opportunity, not the other way around.chrisgoodrich25 said:
to be honest im not sure..i get fairly nervous on first dates..it been a long time since i've kissed anyone other than my girlfreind of 7 years that i broke up with 4-5mo ago and just kinda out of practice..I talked with some guys at work and thy pointed out that they think she thought i was having a bad time..and ended the date prematurley..after hanging for 3 hours we left the resturaunt and i wanted to take her out for some drinks..but the check from the resturaunt just about cashed out any extra money i had..and she told me before we went out that she had to work the next day..i asked if she was tired..and she said no....right away she said she guessed she could go home..(i took as time to take her home...) My freinds think i made it seem as though i didn't have a good time by asking if she was tired..ha ha..poor thing..then i shook her hand when we got back to her house..she insisted on a hug and I took off..Kal0051 said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
