I work in a bookstore and frequently encounter chicks who have an interest. A couple in the last week have been clearly interested in me and many others seem to have been. I'm afraid to show too much interest while working but I hate to let the chances slip by me. Anyone have any advice on how to go about doing this while at work.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You have to think about it. Some work relationships can turn very sour very fast. For example if you break up with her she can start trouble at your work.
If its something like Tacco Bell you could always find a better job. No big deal.
If its something like Tacco Bell you could always find a better job. No big deal.
." Should get her laughing unless she's not interested or just plain *****y.Shiftkey
Master Don Juan
Customers or employees? If they're customers and they seem interested, go ahead and do your thing. Just use common sense so you don't get fired. If they're employees, flirt with them, but only go so far as to use them as social proof/pivots. Don't sh1t where you eat.
brenbaus
Senior Don Juan
well said!Shiftkey said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Thanks for the replies. I've noticed several very clear signs of interest (I generally discount the ones that are ambiuguous) If a customer shows clear signs of interest in a situation like this, I wonder what they expect you to do as an employee of the place they are shopping at. Do they expect you to hit on them, try to ask them out, etc. I mean you don't really have a whole lot of time to do anything. Usually there's customers standing behind them and if not you still don't have a lot of options.