I work in a bookstore and frequently encounter chicks who have an interest. A couple in the last week have been clearly interested in me and many others seem to have been. I'm afraid to show too much interest while working but I hate to let the chances slip by me. Anyone have any advice on how to go about doing this while at work.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You have to think about it. Some work relationships can turn very sour very fast. For example if you break up with her she can start trouble at your work.
If its something like Tacco Bell you could always find a better job. No big deal.
If its something like Tacco Bell you could always find a better job. No big deal.
." Should get her laughing unless she's not interested or just plain *****y.Shiftkey
Master Don Juan
Customers or employees? If they're customers and they seem interested, go ahead and do your thing. Just use common sense so you don't get fired. If they're employees, flirt with them, but only go so far as to use them as social proof/pivots. Don't sh1t where you eat.
brenbaus
Senior Don Juan
well said!Shiftkey said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Thanks for the replies. I've noticed several very clear signs of interest (I generally discount the ones that are ambiuguous) If a customer shows clear signs of interest in a situation like this, I wonder what they expect you to do as an employee of the place they are shopping at. Do they expect you to hit on them, try to ask them out, etc. I mean you don't really have a whole lot of time to do anything. Usually there's customers standing behind them and if not you still don't have a lot of options.