I work in a bookstore and frequently encounter chicks who have an interest. A couple in the last week have been clearly interested in me and many others seem to have been. I'm afraid to show too much interest while working but I hate to let the chances slip by me. Anyone have any advice on how to go about doing this while at work.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You have to think about it. Some work relationships can turn very sour very fast. For example if you break up with her she can start trouble at your work.
If its something like Tacco Bell you could always find a better job. No big deal.
If its something like Tacco Bell you could always find a better job. No big deal.
." Should get her laughing unless she's not interested or just plain *****y.Shiftkey
Master Don Juan
Customers or employees? If they're customers and they seem interested, go ahead and do your thing. Just use common sense so you don't get fired. If they're employees, flirt with them, but only go so far as to use them as social proof/pivots. Don't sh1t where you eat.
brenbaus
Senior Don Juan
well said!Shiftkey said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Thanks for the replies. I've noticed several very clear signs of interest (I generally discount the ones that are ambiuguous) If a customer shows clear signs of interest in a situation like this, I wonder what they expect you to do as an employee of the place they are shopping at. Do they expect you to hit on them, try to ask them out, etc. I mean you don't really have a whole lot of time to do anything. Usually there's customers standing behind them and if not you still don't have a lot of options.