I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
True but it is and he was an ass hole...I will fix it tomorrow. He can't find a place as nice as what he has for the price he is paying. I'm just tired of the ass holes. MAybe I was wrong but I am tired of supplicating. It felt good to stand up to him. I haven't done that in a while..
Yes....I didn't like his attitude.....I am the landlord....I
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I am....He can move. We have weak tentant landlord laws here. He can kiss my ass. I won't put up with ass holery any longer.
how would you feel if he stopped paying the rent because he didn't like your attitude? Or because you haven't fixed the leak in 8 or more weeks after being notified? What if you get labeled as a slumlord by the local news?
I would evict him. Leaky sink dosent give you the right to be an ass hole. Local news would have to weave quite a story. Like I said if he dosent like it move.
I pay the water. The leak is around the drain. A bucket under the sink catches the water.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You are wasting your own money. It would be cheaper to have the repair made.
Depending on your state laws, and your local landlord tenant act, and your lease terms, it actually can be grounds for the resident to withhold rent. In another realm, it definitely is grounds for the resident to call up the local health department and report it. Then you will have to make the repair or be fined.
No....the water is not leaking from the facet. I will fix it Sunday.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
So what. Fix it man. I'm poor and I rent. Nothing worse than a landlord who doesn't keep up their end of the deal and keep it maintained. He shouldn't have to wait two months for you to fix the leaking sink.