"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A few years back I met this woman, at the time a really liked her. Nothing ever happen though. It turns out all the time I was hanging out with here see was involved in a serious relationship. For some reason she decided to never mention her boyfriend though.. Never figured that one out. So in your opinion why does a woman who is involved with someone not mention them?

Heck they ened up getting married ,, Just wondering ???


Thanks
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It strokes her ego to have you interested in her even while she's involved with someone else. These kind of chicks prey on suckers who think they have a chance.

Guys who take things really slow and figure they'll be friends first and hope for more later end up just being friends and go home at night to clutch their pillows.

This is also why going for a kiss early on cuts thru a whole wad of bullshyt.
 
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Originally posted by Slickster
It strokes her ego to have you interested in her even while she's involved with someone else. These kind of chicks prey on suckers who think they have a chance.

Guys who take things really slow and figure they'll be friends first and hope for more later end up just being friends and go home at night to clutch their pillows.

This is also why going for a kiss early on cuts thru a whole wad of bullshyt.
I agree.
 

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For the same reason you wouldnt tell someone that you had a girlfriend. She wanted to keep her options open because she wasnt sure there wasnt something better out there.
 

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Indeed. Men and women alike are all looking to "upgrade"
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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NewMan

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It depends on the situation...

Define hanging out.

Did you meet her through work?

Were you going out on dates? to bars/clubs - to movies?

I've meet plenty of women through work - some I've done lunch with, some gone to drinks after work with - and this doesn't mean I want them....

So it depends on the situation.
 

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Weasel,

I don't know the details of your interactions with this girl, but I think you may have been overanalyzing the situation. Just because a girl doesn't bring up her BF or SO, doesn't necessarily mean that she is evaluating you with the ulterior motive to dumb him to get you. Especially if she wasn't kino'ing you or flirting with you in very explicit ways.

Then again, even if she was, I don't think you would want to get involved with a girl who is always on the lookout for the "Bigger Better Deal" (BBD). Once she hooks up with you, what goes around, comes around.
 

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Originally posted by Slickster
It strokes her ego to have you interested in her even while she's involved with someone else. These kind of chicks prey on suckers who think they have a chance.

Guys who take things really slow and figure they'll be friends first and hope for more later end up just being friends and go home at night to clutch their pillows.

This is also why going for a kiss early on cuts thru a whole wad of bullshyt.
this is the best reply your going to get. Just recognise your fvckups and learn from them so you know for next time.

and to answer your "why didnt she mention her boyfriend?". Because that would turn you off, inturn jeopardising her ego being stroked by you if she mentioned the borefriend.

simple as that.

and like slickster said go for the kiss close early and the fvck close by the 3rd meeting. Its a great general rule for cutting out time wasting.
 
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Westcoaster - do guys actually 'clutch' their pillows?? That is something that women do, no? :confused:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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