"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Opinion please !!

Weaselpuke

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A few years back I met this woman, at the time a really liked her. Nothing ever happen though. It turns out all the time I was hanging out with here see was involved in a serious relationship. For some reason she decided to never mention her boyfriend though.. Never figured that one out. So in your opinion why does a woman who is involved with someone not mention them?

Heck they ened up getting married ,, Just wondering ???


Thanks
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Slickster

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It strokes her ego to have you interested in her even while she's involved with someone else. These kind of chicks prey on suckers who think they have a chance.

Guys who take things really slow and figure they'll be friends first and hope for more later end up just being friends and go home at night to clutch their pillows.

This is also why going for a kiss early on cuts thru a whole wad of bullshyt.
 
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Originally posted by Slickster
It strokes her ego to have you interested in her even while she's involved with someone else. These kind of chicks prey on suckers who think they have a chance.

Guys who take things really slow and figure they'll be friends first and hope for more later end up just being friends and go home at night to clutch their pillows.

This is also why going for a kiss early on cuts thru a whole wad of bullshyt.
I agree.
 

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For the same reason you wouldnt tell someone that you had a girlfriend. She wanted to keep her options open because she wasnt sure there wasnt something better out there.
 

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Indeed. Men and women alike are all looking to "upgrade"
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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NewMan

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It depends on the situation...

Define hanging out.

Did you meet her through work?

Were you going out on dates? to bars/clubs - to movies?

I've meet plenty of women through work - some I've done lunch with, some gone to drinks after work with - and this doesn't mean I want them....

So it depends on the situation.
 

Genghis Juan

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Weasel,

I don't know the details of your interactions with this girl, but I think you may have been overanalyzing the situation. Just because a girl doesn't bring up her BF or SO, doesn't necessarily mean that she is evaluating you with the ulterior motive to dumb him to get you. Especially if she wasn't kino'ing you or flirting with you in very explicit ways.

Then again, even if she was, I don't think you would want to get involved with a girl who is always on the lookout for the "Bigger Better Deal" (BBD). Once she hooks up with you, what goes around, comes around.
 

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Originally posted by Slickster
It strokes her ego to have you interested in her even while she's involved with someone else. These kind of chicks prey on suckers who think they have a chance.

Guys who take things really slow and figure they'll be friends first and hope for more later end up just being friends and go home at night to clutch their pillows.

This is also why going for a kiss early on cuts thru a whole wad of bullshyt.
this is the best reply your going to get. Just recognise your fvckups and learn from them so you know for next time.

and to answer your "why didnt she mention her boyfriend?". Because that would turn you off, inturn jeopardising her ego being stroked by you if she mentioned the borefriend.

simple as that.

and like slickster said go for the kiss close early and the fvck close by the 3rd meeting. Its a great general rule for cutting out time wasting.
 
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Westcoaster - do guys actually 'clutch' their pillows?? That is something that women do, no? :confused:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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