"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Opinion on my body proportions

marmel75

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How are you only 164????

I am 200+, your height, not nearly as lean, my arms are about half your size, & I bench 400+.

I mean you look great, but I'd swear that you were 210+.
Because he is carrying no weight in his lower body. That is why people who squat/deadlift and have big lower bodies always will weigh 20+ lbs more than people who don't...the lower body contains the majority of the muscle on your body and can grow proportionately much larger than the upper body. Ever see those football players who are 5'8 or 5'9 and ripped that weigh 210 lbs? All their weight is in their legs. With legs like OP, they would weigh 180 lbs.

As an aside, I am also 5' 8" and when I was in prime shape I was 185-188 lbs with 8-9% BF and had legs the size of tree trunks, and an unbelievable ass(that couldn't be seen because I had to wear pants 2 sizes too big or my quads/ass would rip the seams before the first day was over as soon as I did any type of bending)...the weight you are looking for is in your legs and glutes. Start working them OP, you are on the verge of looking retarded with a huge upper body and no lower body.

Remember, friends don't let friends skip leg day---the pain and fatigue is real tho. When you can barely walk 4 days after your last leg day... Don't run from it, embrace it.
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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custardpie

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Your bis are way out of proportion to the rest of you dude. Reduce the curls and increase the compound lifts.
People with big arms and skinny body just look weird as fvck. Don't be that guy.
 

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Thanks, dude. This is good and bad news for me. Good because I've been wanting to go on a cut and get rid of extra body fat around my hips and lower pecs...but bad news because I have yet to hit my goals in the gym. Still though, I started thinking the same thing and I really wasn't trying to get too big. I'm at 164 lbs now, so I think I'll go down to around 150 and just hover between that and 155.

Cutting out the creatine will help reduce some of the weight immediately as well.
This goes to show the amazing illusion that being shredded and having a low bf% will give. I bet your arms are not even THAT big, but in pics, because you are in such good shape. they LOOK big.

Looks to me like you have a very narrow chest and lats. That would be something I would start working on right away to give you a fuller look. Legs too. I started squating 5 days a week, just 3-4 sets before I do the rest of my workout, (besides my normal leg day) and that helped a lot.

Nice job on the physique though.
 

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Don't care about other people's eyes, you are the best.
 

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I'm would say any more size in the upperbody will make you a meathead. And you could probably enter a contest. I would cut and maybe work out full body 1 a week just to maintain. If you training naturally I doubt you traps will grow any bigger. I have a similar look just taller with longer arms and smaller bicep.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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