Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Opinion: Kino early on is not necessary if you otherwise escalate

Trunks

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Back in the day, I was super mis-calibrated and kino was not a natural thing for me. Well, as I learned some from experience and others' advice, I became comfortable flirting and showing my interest without coming on too strong. Maybe that's why I strayed from the advice to do kino when you are getting to know the girl.

Here's what I do: I usually just go on the first date, and if after flirting and banter I decide I am liking the girl (and I sense she is enjoying the date too), I will stop her when we walk from one venue to another and kiss her. This works for me most of the time and I don't kino before that. After the first kiss, touching and escalating physically just feel natural in general and I can pace it based on my reading of the girl.

I am sure that kino early on works for the many guys who advocate it, but I wanted to say that IMO it's not necessary as long as there is mutual interest and you keep having fun during the date.

Thoughts?
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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TheMonkeyKing

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What's going to happen when you get naked? You're going to be physically touching each other.

If there isn't much short term chemistry, don't touch her just for the sake of it and make yourself look like a creep.

Otherwise, unless you want to get friend-zoned or flaked on, I'd say it's pretty much a necessity to escalate physically and in the short term.
 

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Maybe I wasn't clear in my wording. Yes, I do touch her after the first kiss, but not before. This isn't a rule but more of a projection of how into it I usually feel about someone I barely know.
 
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If touching does not come naturally to you, you come off as a creepy. If you can communicate your sexual interest with eye contact that is the best way to go when you first meet a woman. If you can wait until she touches you first, you get much better results.
 

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If touching does not come naturally to you, you come off as a creepy. If you can communicate your sexual interest with eye contact that is the best way to go when you first meet a woman. If you can wait until she touches you first, you get much better results.
Exactly. That is how I show sexual interest from the start: mainly through eye contact. Body language and tone are close seconds. Combined with being direct, I find this makes up for not touching girls much at the beginning in my case. YMMV
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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